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How Weaning And The Time Magazine Cover Made Me Take Up Knitting

colorful knitting

Knitting takes my mind off of weaning.

You know that phenomenon when you pick up a new subject, like for example… knitting, and then suddenly, everywhere you look, it’s knitting, knitting, knitting, everywhere?

Hi, have we met? I’m Naomi and I’m in the process of weaning my twenty month-old toddler.

Hello Time Magazine.

(knit1 purl1 repeat)

If you haven’t yet seen the cover of Time that comes out tomorrow, check out the myriad of posts on Babble today trying to undo the damage that Time is about to do to the relationships between moms.

What a timely topic for me this week? I didn’t even need to read the article. One look at the oversexualized, overnurturized cover was all it took to make my breasts ache and my blood boil all at the same time.

…knit knit knit…

I’ve had a lot of conflicted feelings about weaning, especially since I got home from my trip.
Perhaps because I thought the worst of it would be over by now, and the last 3 days have been way more challenging than I expected.

I STILL have not given in but I can tell you that the fight is not over, considering the strangely hard boulders  attached to my pectoralis major. There have been numerous times when I was ready to throw in the towel and start again. The reasoning and thoughts going through my head (often at irrational times of the night and peppered by a screaming, crying baby) are as follows:

  • 20 months seems arbitrary 1 of 7
    20 months seems arbitrary
    Why not wait until 2 years (also kind of arbitrary, other than this is the age the WHO recommends). Heck, why not wait until he can stand on a chair and be breast-height, even if that's when he's 6?
    I want to make a blanket like this!!!
    Photo Credit: Flickr
  • I obviously still have milk. 2 of 7
    I obviously still have milk.
    My inability to sleep on my stomach the last few nights has proved this so.
    What a cool scarf, right?
    Photo Credit: Flickr
  • If I do it just once, maybe he’ll be fine and not want anymore. 3 of 7
    If I do it just once, maybe he'll be fine and not want anymore.
    The slippery slope. It's just like trying drugs.
    Photo Credit: Flickr
  • Or at least maybe if I do it once a day he’d be fine with that now that he’s gone without for 6. 4 of 7
    Or at least maybe if I do it once a day he'd be fine with that now that he's gone without for 6.
    See how that last slope became even more slippery?
    Love these colors together, by the way.
    Photo Credit: Flickr
  • That attachment parenting article is making me feel like I should. 5 of 7
    That attachment parenting article is making me feel like I should.
    But wait, I haven't even read it.
    This is what my knitting usually looks like.
    Photo Credit: Flickr
  • See, he’s crying so hard, he must still need it! 6 of 7
    See, he's crying so hard, he must still need it!
    I'm denying him a basic need! I'm a terrible mother! My legs are not as skinny as the Time lady's!
    FYI, this sweater makes me wish I had a girl.
    Photo Credit: Flickr
  • If I do it now he’ll fall asleep and STOP CRYING! 7 of 7
    If I do it now he'll fall asleep and STOP CRYING!
    ...and I can have a beer...while I knit!!!
    Photo Credit: Flickr

Truth be told, I’m getting amazing support from my fellow mom friends, both those who have and have not breastfed. I feel lucky in that respect and don’t feel the slightest bit threatened by the Mommy Wars. I more feel sad for my own loss, since this will likely be my last breastfeeding baby. Or likely was my last breastfeeding baby. Sigh.

Anyone wean and then go back to feeding? Anyone have sadness post weaning and question if they were doing the right thing?

Photo via Flickr

More by Naomi
8 Benefits To Taking A Parental Break For A Weekend
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Weaning Report: Where We Are Now

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