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How Weaning And The Time Magazine Cover Made Me Take Up Knitting

By Naomi Odes |

colorful knitting

Knitting takes my mind off of weaning.

You know that phenomenon when you pick up a new subject, like for example… knitting, and then suddenly, everywhere you look, it’s knitting, knitting, knitting, everywhere?

Hi, have we met? I’m Naomi and I’m in the process of weaning my twenty month-old toddler.

Hello Time Magazine.

(knit1 purl1 repeat)

If you haven’t yet seen the cover of Time that comes out tomorrow, check out the myriad of posts on Babble today trying to undo the damage that Time is about to do to the relationships between moms.

What a timely topic for me this week? I didn’t even need to read the article. One look at the oversexualized, overnurturized cover was all it took to make my breasts ache and my blood boil all at the same time.

…knit knit knit…

I’ve had a lot of conflicted feelings about weaning, especially since I got home from my trip.
Perhaps because I thought the worst of it would be over by now, and the last 3 days have been way more challenging than I expected.

I STILL have not given in but I can tell you that the fight is not over, considering the strangely hard boulders  attached to my pectoralis major. There have been numerous times when I was ready to throw in the towel and start again. The reasoning and thoughts going through my head (often at irrational times of the night and peppered by a screaming, crying baby) are as follows:

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Is The Time Magazine Breastfeeding Cover Useful In One Mom's Fight To Wean A Toddler?

20 months seems arbitrary

Why not wait until 2 years (also kind of arbitrary, other than this is the age the WHO recommends). Heck, why not wait until he can stand on a chair and be breast-height, even if that's when he's 6?
I want to make a blanket like this!!!
Photo Credit: Flickr

Truth be told, I’m getting amazing support from my fellow mom friends, both those who have and have not breastfed. I feel lucky in that respect and don’t feel the slightest bit threatened by the Mommy Wars. I more feel sad for my own loss, since this will likely be my last breastfeeding baby. Or likely was my last breastfeeding baby. Sigh.

Anyone wean and then go back to feeding? Anyone have sadness post weaning and question if they were doing the right thing?

Photo via Flickr

More by Naomi
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Naomi Odes Aytur is a blogger who's contributed on the parenting channel of Babble. She chronicles her experiences of being a new mom on her personal website, I Am Still Awake. Read bio and latest posts → Read Naomi's latest posts →

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7 thoughts on “How Weaning And The Time Magazine Cover Made Me Take Up Knitting

  1. Danielle says:

    OMG, the knitting distraction comments are hilarious! So sorry that this is so hard for both of you. I don’t think there’s a right answer. I see the slippery slope issue though.

  2. Meagan says:

    I think lettuce leaves are supposed to help with engorgement… or maybe it’s cabbage? Sounds bizarre to me, but strangers on the Internet swear it’s true. Anyway, probably can’t do any damage other than asking you feel like an idiot for putting wilted vegetables in your bra, right?

    Anyway, I haven’t gone through the weaning thing yet. My bub is 11.5 months… I planned to wean at a year, and now I keep thinking, already? I’m not ready! He’s night weaned though, so I don’t abe the whole sleep issue to motivate me.

  3. Chris says:

    I had an out of town work trip and was gone for 4 nights – my son was 22 months. I had mixed feelings about weaning. I didn’t want it to happen because I was gone, I wanted it to be his choice but I was pretty sure I was ready to be done.

    He wouldn’t nurse when I got back. I assumed he was done and I was upset since I was sure he was my last baby. Somewhere between 2-3 since the last time I nursed him he had an EPIC meltdown. I don’t even remember what happened but I could not get him to calm down. I did the only thing I could think of and laid down next to him in bed and offered a boob. He latched on and the rest is history.

    He’s 30 months (sniff sniff) now and still nurses for a few minutes before he goes to bed at night. I wouldn’t be surprised if he weans within the next few weeks as he’s really losing interest.

  4. Manda says:

    Cabbage leaves. Refrigerate, change a leaf every 3-4 hours, and you will be able to sleep pain free.

  5. Hollie says:

    Jeez, this post was written exactly how my trains-of-thought go these days! That’s why there are 40 half-finished projects around my house. It’s totally normal to feel sad and unsure when weaning. You are going through some big hormonal shifts now, plus it’s hard to feel confident when you have so many things to think about. If you are REALLY uncomfortable, hand express a tiny bit (but not too much or your body will think you need to keep producing), use cold packs, and take Advil. It’s tough, but you’re not doing anything BAD to your kid by weaning now… try to give yourself a break :)

    1. Naomi says:

      @Hollie- thanks- it’s definitely good to hear that last part. I just have to remember that.

      @ A.J. I think we’re finally over the hump. He doesn’t really ask for it much anymore. It’s still sad for me, but I think it was the right thing for us.

  6. A.J. says:

    Do what’s right for you. I am having a hell of a time cutting down the nursing with T. Some days I’m fine with it (Do whatever you want to me, just GO TO SLEEP!), other days I’m not (Get off me you little parasite!). Try lots and lots and LOTS of special time with Mommy with distractions — i.e., field trips (out and about, no environmental nursing cues). But what do I know, sometimes my 21-month-old still wants to nurse every 2 hours. I mean, WTF?!?! It wasn’t nearly this hard with the first one, sigh.

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