Having kids is such a sobering experience sometimes. Do you ever look at your child and think, “Oh no, they are EXACTLY like me!”? This has been happening to me more and more with my daughter recently.
Whether it’s the way that she likes to put on singing and dancing shows for the rest of the family, just like I used to do when I was her age. Or it’s the tone of voice she uses when bossing her brother around, and then I say to her, in the exact same tone, “Kaelyn, don’t talk to your brother like that!” (Yes, admitting that makes me cringe.)
Or it’s a characteristic that suddenly appears, and I don’t know if she picked up from me, or if she just innately has it because she is my daughter.
The other day, I was helping my kids clean out their room as it had gotten a little out of hand. There were clean clothes to be put away, dirty laundry to wash, toys that needed to be sorted and put into the right bins, books that needed to be re-shelved, and just general messiness that needed to be picked up.
As we were getting started, I asked my daughter to pick up all the dress-up clothes and put them into the bin we keep them in. As she started to pick them up, she suddenly dumped the whole bin of clothes out and announced that she wanted fold and organize them all, before she put them away.
In the meantime, there are still toys, books, and their regular clothes all over the rest of the room. And she just made more of a mess by dumping out all the dress-up clothes.
A power struggle ensues, as I try to convince her to just pick up the dress-up clothes first, so that we can get the whole room picked up more quickly, and then she can go back and fold and organize them. She has already started to sort the dress-up stuff into piles, and has begun folding and rolling up some of the scarves. She is not buying into my logic. She really, really wants to fold and organize those clothes!
And it’s not that I don’t appreciate her folding and organizing things. I really do.
And I totally get it, because I do the EXACT same thing. Just ask my husband, because it drives him crazy. There will be a whole messy room around me, and I will decide that I really need to organize the sock drawer, or alphabetize a book shelf.
But, the issue was that I just wanted to get the room cleaned up, and whenever the kids decide they want to play dress-up they just dig through the bin and would mess up all the folding and organizing anyway. In this case, I can see the bigger picture, while she is focusing on a specific project.
Finally, I got her to stop folding and organizing, and help finish cleaning up the room. As we were finishing up, there was still play food and dishes that needed to go back into the play kitchen. So, she then decided that she wanted to clean out and organize the play kitchen.
And you know what, I let her, and she did a great job. She was so cute, sorting the stuff, and putting it back all nice and neatly.
Of course, it won’t last that way for more than a day or two. But it’s okay. Because who doesn’t love a little organizing project? I know I do. And I love seeing that my daughter does too. Just like her mama.
What trait or characteristic does your child have that is just like you?
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