When I got pregnant with Avery, Harlan was nearing two years old. Because I had no other choice, I brought her to all of my doctors appointments and kept her very involved in my pregnancy. She was very aware that there was a “baby in my belly” and she couldn’t have been more excited. The transition bringing Avery home went smoothly and Harlan loved having a baby at home to love and cuddle on.
Avery was only 13 months when I found out I was pregnant. She could barely understand anything that we were saying much less understanding that I had a baby growing in my belly. Now five months later, we mention the baby in mommy’s belly as often as we can. If I ask her where the baby is, though, she just lifts up her shirt. Which tells me she understands, just not as much as I would like her to.
With the transition from bringing Avery home that went flawless, I would really like this next transition to go well too. Avery is my wild child. She’s definitely given me a run for my money these past 18 months. Always on the go, has a hard time sitting still, and unfortunately gets very jealous when she’s not the one with mommy.
I am trying to use many of the same techniques that I did with Harlan when I was pregnant with Avery; taking her to my doctors appointments, openly talking about the baby, showing her baby clothes that we’ve bought, buying her her own baby doll to take care of. All of these are working well so far, but I’m just not sure how much she is actually understanding it.
I know a lot of it has to do with her age and over time she will begin to understand more. But I worry because I want her to feel as comfortable as possible when this baby comes. I want her to know that my love for her is continuous no matter how many children we have in our family.
Moms who have been in my shoes before, any advice?
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