Never Apologize for the Parent You AreLori Garcia
Who freaking cares?!
I know, I know, a paci is bad for speech (I think) and maybe oral development (or did I make that up?).
All I know is this: I don’t really care how you parent, but for some unknown reason, lots of people do.
So long as your child is loved and cared for, why should anyone care if your toddler eats standing or plays with toy guns?
I wrote about the fact that my toddler has a TV in his room and I’m not sorry. Wow, people cared. I guess I was flattered even if some of the comments were pretty harsh. For the record, I’m still not sorry.
Find what works for you and use it. If you live to regret the parenting decisions you’ve made and have bad habits to break, so be it. We all have ’em.
I have made and will continue to make plenty of questionable parenting choices, but it’s me who has to live with them – no one else. Like starting the habit of cinnamon roll Sundays? My idea. My kids love it, my ass hates me. Or the habit of a toddler in my bed when he can’t sleep? My toddler loves it, my husband doesn’t. We each have the right to raise our kids with the best of intentions.
You know your child and you know what works. Good, bad or indifferent, these are our choices to make for it is we who suffer the consequences and reap the rewards. It’s all about practical, livable parenting within the confines of the values your family personally holds dear. Your parenting choices are for no one else to judge so stand true to what works for you and thank everyone else for their concern.
Somewhere along the way we lost the humor in the absurdity of our everyday: our kids freaking out, poop on the floor, boogers on our shirts – come on people, this stuff is ridiculous and all together awesome. Bottom line: We’re all just trying to survive and embrace the crazy in our own way. Who said parenting had to be so serious all the time?
We each have the right to raise happy and healthy kids our own way so parent on with your awesome self.
Never ever be sorry for the parent you are; your child wouldn’t want you any other way.
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