Toddlerhood is a game-changer. For both the parent and the child.
We as mothers, as parents, need to bring in the reserves, the heavy artillery. The research. The science. The best-selling books.
It seems to be a time (at least for me) wherein my natural instincts and my personal “organic, natural mothering-ways” alone… simply aren’t cutting it.
In knowing that the first five years are the most formative (mentally, emotionally, physically) in a child’s life, I want to do all that I can to not mess that up and maybe even come out on top. (Or the middle? Middle is good.) You know?
We need to dig down deep into our own psyche, acknowledge our own triggers and re-learn how not only to cope with ourselves, but to teach our children how to cope with their own emotions. Or trust them enough to figure it out. (The key is knowing how to ride that fine line.)
It is during such times as these, in which I am neck deep in unconditional love (as both the giver and the receiver), bodily functions, toddler melt-downs, and heart-stopping adorableness, that I am constantly wavering between doubt and confidence.
Thought so. In any case, I’ve begun to build up a little library of resources that I thought some of you lovely readers might appreciate knowing about. The world of parenting is strife with opinions and research and experts. It can be tough to wade through all of that and find advice and support that you can actually identify with. My list isn’t a generic list for all – but I’m not SO weird that there can’t be a few other mothers out there like me.
Many are already dog-eared and worn and some are on their way to me. I’ll let you know what I think of those when I’m done with them.
What are your favourites? I would love to hear…
These are some favoured online resources that I go to now and then for nuggets of wisdom:
More Babbles From Selena…
- All of the ways in which Toddlers are AWESOME
- Cultivate joy.
- Cultivate stillness.
- 5 Way I Beat Writer’s Block
- The politics of toddler hair (around here)
- On Getting Toddlers to Eat Their Greens
Elsewhere on the internets…
Via my humble beginnings, mastering in general mayhem: le petit rêve.