Reclaiming Our Bedroom From a Bed-Sharing ToddlerBeth Anne Ballance
Last week I wrote about Harrison’s new sleeping arrangement, right smack in the middle of my husband and I. I’m totally not cool with it.
People gave fantastic advice both on here and Facebook, mostly either saying to use the new house as an opportunity to reset boundaries or to embrace it because time, it is a’fleeting. I definitely understand those that said that it was just a phase to live through, to enjoy the little warm body curled against me because he’ll be 18 and leaving home sooner than I’d like. But my husband and I talked at length about what we wanted to do and we agreed that while snuggles are nice, kicks to the kidneys at 3 AM are not and it was time to reclaim our bed.
So last Friday night when we spent the first night in our new house, we laid down the law. We did our normal bed routine and then tucked Harrison into his bed in his new room.
How’d it go, you ask?
I’m pretty sure I lost count after walking Harrison back to his room 10 times, but he finally settled around midnight and woke up around 7am. Then he crawled into our bed for morning snuggles and cartoons. (This part is totally okay by me, I just don’t want him spending the night in our bed.)
The second night, we only walked him back four times.
The third night, I sat outside his door for a little while and we had no Harrison appearances until the morning.
The fourth night, I did not sit by his door and surprise! a Harrison not 10 minutes later.
I think the key for this right now is consistancy, but also me sitting outside his door until he falls asleep. He just needs security until he gets used to this new place and if 20 minutes outside his door gives me an entire night alone with my husband, I’m all for it.
Did you ever have to break a bad toddler habit? How did you do it?
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