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Stop Taking Parenting So Seriously!

By Danielle |

Sarcasm … it is how I get through life. It’s my coping mechanism for stress, the way I deal with awkward moments, and of course it is almost completely my sense of humor.

I have always been this way, as long as I can remember. Especially during my interesting teen years.

It wasn’t until I became a parent, and of course a blogger that I realized how many people in our world simply do not understand sarcasm. Whether they make an active choice to take everything in life so literally, or they just want to be rude and put you down for looking for humor in certain situations. Heck, there are some people out there who flat out just don’t get it.

Today is one of those parenting soap box kind of days.

Why?

Because there is nothing wrong with keeping the humor in parenting. Just because someone shares a funny e-card on parenting or makes a joke about needing a gallon of wine by the end of a stressful day, doesn’t automatically throw them into the bad parent category. Nor does it mean you can’t handle your children. It simply means you react to stress and life differently than some.

Some of the most caring and genuine people I have met in real life (who are also bloggers) are hysterical, and also write in heavy sarcasm about their children.  I am talking about Jill Krause, the witty voice behind BabyRabies.com. I am sure she gets people who don’t “get” her either, but I guess in the end it is their loss, right?

The fact is, we don’t hate our kids.
We can handle them just fine.
We are doing a great job raising the next generation of respectful little people.

We accept that parenting isn’t always going to be cuddles and kisses. There is poop and puke. There are temper tantrums and those sippy cups under the seat in the minivan that were once filled with milk, about six months ago. There is going to be drama with school and daycare. There will be those school plays and concerts that melt our hearts.

And through it all, there will be amazing one-liners in which our children may become the butt of a joke. It is life, and there is nothing wrong with it.

Maybe if more people laughed and smiled more the world would be a better place?

 

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14 thoughts on “Stop Taking Parenting So Seriously!

  1. Jill @BabyRabies says:

    Awww! You rock, Danielle. I know you know that I couldn’t survive this motherhood thing without being able to laugh at myself and all the chaos around me. Sarcasm is my ultimate coping method sometimes. Thanks so much for the shout out and the kind words!

  2. Monica says:

    First of all, don’t compare yourself to bloggers like Jill from Baby Rabies. She is an intelligent woman who effectively expresses herself to make it clear what’s sarcasm and love and she balances it all out. You on the other hand, not so much.

    Don’t tell me I need to chill out in parenting either. I let my hair down with my kids all the time and laugh. I do not however do it publicly at their expense. Maybe you’ll understand a little better when your children are older like I have older children.

    But the thing about sarcasm is there is always truth spoken in jest. So while you might be joking about your need to drink to get through your day there is a little truth behind that. Not that it makes you a bad parent to have a glass of wine or two, but don’t go saying that others can’t laugh just because they don’t find humor at all in what you’re saying. Perhaps it is the fault of the messenger and not the receiver. And perhaps people see some of the things like calling your children a-holes and bastards as damaging no matter how much jest you might have made it in. You wrote it in public and you can’t take it back and your children will find it and then what?

    I have a very firm grasp of sarcasm Danielle and you my friend are not at all good at it. Keep reading those that are (Baby Rabies and the Bloggess) because you have a lot to learn about using sarcasm effectively. It’s much easier to portray sarcasm in the spoken language than in writing so maybe you should leave the sarcasm writing to those who are capable of doing it. You are NOT!

  3. Danielle says:

    @Monica – Too each their own, but I have never called my children a-holes or bastards, ever. There is a difference between sarcasm, and child abuse.

  4. Jo says:

    Dear Monica,

    Didn’t your parents teach you the rule “If you can’t say anything nice than don’t say anything at all?

    Sincerely,

    Jo

  5. Jo says:

    Dear Monica,

    I guess your parents didn’t teach you the rule: “If you can’t say anything nice then don’t say anything at all”? Oh wait…I forgot the other rule: “Don’t feed the trolls.”

    Please disregard.

    Sincerely,

    Jo

  6. Jo says:

    Pet peeves: when a site gives you an error and tells you a comment didn’t go through when it really did. GRRRR

    Oh well, I really meant what I said so it’s worth reading twice. Hehee!

    Don’t let the haters get you down Danielle. *fist bump*

  7. Leigh says:

    Um. I have NEVER heard Danielle call her kids a-holes, bastards, or anything derogatory at all. EVER. And I have known her for 13 years.

    ……but I WILL say that you have made yourself look like quite a jerk. And that’s what you are. A FREAKING JERK. Grow the hell up, lady.

  8. Melanie says:

    Don’t listen to the crazies – love your writing on here and your personal blog :)

    I am a mktg and communications manager (i.e. WRITER) and I “get” your writing just fine – for those who don’t, their loss.

    Keep up the good work :)

  9. Monica says:

    Yes, much like you have never been involved in mom wars, right Danielle? You would never call your children such awful names.

    And Jo how exactly did I not say something nice? Because I said her writing doesn’t compare to the likes of Baby Rabies? Because I said that sarcasm in writing does not seem to be her forte? I’m sorry, I wasn’t aware that all comments on here must be in glowing agreement of everything someone says. My mistake. I stand behind what I say though, there is no comparison between Danielle and Baby Rabies. Totally different level there. Perhaps you should have a talk with Melanie though about if you don’t have anything nice to say… Because calling people crazies certainly doesn’t sound nice to me.

  10. Brandy says:

    Monica,
    Do you have some sort of vendetta against Danielle? Everytime I read one of her posts, there you are saying something nasty. And while I appreciate your above comment about mom wars, I kind of feel like you’re trying to start one about a whether one mom’s sarcasm comes across to another mom. Maybe take a deep breath before your next post?

  11. amanda says:

    My children have a very avid sense of humor. My sons favorite word is “weinerthunder” and hes two. Do I encourage this kind of humor? Hell yeah I do!

  12. Sabrina Stamatelos Clemens says:

    Monica

    Really Danielle is a good blogger… you keep coming back to read more!!! I love how you Monica take this so personally like you think Danielle was writing about YOU… Maybe you THINK that you are too serious. hmmnnn food for thought. And of course there is always truth behind Sarcasm otherwise it would not be worth saying… Danielle wants people to have a “parenting chuckle” at her jokes of having a bottle of wine jokes. what she is saying is PLEASE LAUGH and let your hair down at being a parent and be able to joke and roll with the punches of being a parent. Monica please get your undies un bunched… you are too uptight as a person never mind a parent… but you make a great troll.
    xoxo
    Sabrina

  13. Michele says:

    Monica,
    I am relatively new to this forum and I read Danielle’s post as well as your response. I was taken aback. Not at her tone, demeanor or perceived lack of appropriate sense of humor, but at the level of personal attack in your response. You have made it crystal clear that you do not agree with Danielle’s point of view(which I find firmly based in wit and realistic sarcasm). But I pose a question to you. Why do you find it necessary to personally attack her? And yes, your comment was a direct personal attack aimed not at constructive criticism or voicing an opposing opinion, but simply to bring someone else down and make them more self conscious than they probably already are.
    There is such a big bloggosphere out there. Maybe what you should do is simply not follow Danielle and find another blogger on which to voice your opinion. It does not do you any favors to be a bully. Being the excellent mother of grown up children such as you are, I’m sure that you’ve dealt with bullies and wouldn’t tolerate that kind of behavior from them.
    Danielle was not attacking your parenting. She wasn’t speaking directly to you. The style in which she writes is called “social commentary” and should therefore be taken as such. Or maybe you can start a blog and open yourself up to mean people such as yourself.

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