Two years ago I was a stay at home mom with 3 small kids, and our family embarked on a home renovation project we assumed would be straightforward. Easy. No big deal. After all, we were just adding a family room to the area off of our kitchen. It was estimated to take 8 weeks, our contractor had great credentials, and since I’d be home to oversee the whole thing, surely it wouldn’t be much of a headache at all.
Well, you know what happens when we assume things, right? Right.
As it turned out, what we assumed wouldn’t be a headache was more like a migraine, except instead of being able to take to my bed with a wash cloth covering my eyes I had to keep my kids from playing with the power tools. And instead of those weird rainbow visual effects all I saw were piles of dirt in my yard and drywall dust in my Cheerios.
Having lived through it, there are definitely a few things I’d do differently. Here are my tips for surviving a major home renovation project as a stay at home mom.
Safety First
Going into our project I didn't realize that the people working on our house wouldn't necessarily know that there were children around. After one incident when a potentially dangerous tool was left plugged in on my porch, I knew I was going to have to be much more proactive about communicating our safety needs, both to the workers and my children.
There's nothing like the sound hammering to wake an overtired child from her nap, as I learned. I discussed our family's schedule with our contractor and they tried to work around nap time, but it wasn't always possible. I had to relax my expectations a bit, and sometimes resorted to taking long drives with napping kids in the backseat in the name of sleep!
When selecting materials for our addition, keep durability in mind, particularly with kids. I would have saved myself a considerable amount of stress had I chosen hard wood floors instead of carpet since the room opens up to the backyard. With 3 kids and 2 dogs, wood would have been a much better choice!
There's no doubt about it— a home renovation is stressful! But by keeping the big picture in mind and being flexible, it'll be a much less stressful situation.
Mary Lauren Weimer is a social worker turned mother turned writer. Her blog, My 3 Little Birds, encourages moms to put down the baby books for a moment and tell their own stories. Connect with her on Facebook and Twitter.
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Mary Lauren Weimer is a freelance writer and blogger. Her work has appeared in such places as Spirituality & Health and The Huffington Post, and she’s known for her thoughtful and introspective writing about all aspects of motherhood and the parent-child relationship.
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