The Importance of Date Night (With My Little Man)Selena Mills
This time it wasn’t so much business as it was ‘healing intensive’ … for me anyways. That’s not what it was called, although I do know there are getaways and retreats dubbed as such; I’m sure my 5 days in the bush was far from a yoga retreat or some other form of New Age weekend sort of thing. The experience of which I am still processing. So, I don’t have much more to say on that.
What I can talk freely about is on the importance of Date Night. Not with my partner, (which of course is mighty important as well) but with my little man. When I’m away from my kids for more than a night (let’s be real, a night off now and then is a blessed event), my chest starts to clench up a little more each day I am away from them.
This ache only soothed by my return home to them, where joy comes crashing in on me in delicious tidal waves.
While I of course missed them both, my boy and my girl, there are special things that I reserve for doing with each of them separately on their own. Age-appropriate activities, some one on one time with the mama.
Last night it was high time for a date with my boy Wyndham. I can’t recommend doing this enough fellow mamas! Carve out time for dates with your children. It is critical for relationship building. When you spend time with your little one without anyone else from your family included, it shows them how very special and important they are to you, and as an individual person.
Last night I was able to really soak in all the ways my near 3-year-old has been developing. I was listening to to the way he crafts words together and talks in complete sentences now. Watching the way he interacts with other children or carefully inspects a new environment. The way he adventures and soars to meet a new challenge. The way he loves to explore and problem solve.
It was clear that he knew this was a special time, our date night, and he reveled in it. Unclear at first as to where his daddy and sister were, (even though we’ve had date nights before) as we usually go on outings together, he quickly savored and rolled out the words, almost luxuriantly, “Jus mama and Wyndham. Not Daddy, not Abigail … Jus mama and Wyndham.” Complete with little jig and fist pump … I kid you not.
I was careful not to inundate our time together with treats ahoy, as that can become dangerous. Hard to do though, because, heck, I like giving my boy treats now and then. Every little person should have treats once in a while. I packed up a picnic dinner of carrot and cucumber sticks and hummus (which he actually loves), his Thomas The Tank Engine water flask (don’t mess), some raisins and mandarin oranges to accompany our cinema hot dogs. Oh yes, I fed my child a hot dog. Probably close to #1 of the things I swore I’d never feed my child. Oh, how things change.
At any rate, while going to a movie was a good idea in theory .. .it was a total bust. We’ve taken our little guy to the movies before and have had success. Wyndham and I chose Ice Age: Continental Drift together (in 3D), after discussing it. He loves those Ice Age movies. Well, unbeknownst to me, this newest one was slightly more scary and ominous than the others and the dude lost his toddler shit.
There was no going back.
He was not a fan and we left mid-way. He totally dug it at first and found the effect from wearing the 3D glasses slightly freaky, but soon caught on. He did not, however; like the end of the world happening in surround sound, and those sea creatures and the scary pirates were all too much for him. Poor little guy. So we left before he was turned off from the movie theater altogether experience, saving some grace-room to try the re-release of Finding Nemo in 3D next month.
With the refund in my pocket, we left for greener pastures. The huge indoor playground down the street from the theater, complete with rides, a huge ball pit (yep, I let my kid go in those too), a 3,500 square foot play structure with two giant slides and mazes of tunnels. In other words: Toddler Heaven.
All in all we had a adventuresome, fun-filled night and my man is still talking about it today. Clearly I thought it was alright.
More Babbles From Selena…
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- The Things These Toddlers Say! 1st Edition
- Top 10 Things The Music Industry Has Taught Me About Being a Parent
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