I assume that as parents, we all sort of look at our lives as split into two distinct time frames – before kids, and after kids. And while I’m not saying I would ever choose one over the other (that’s not true — I’d go with the kids), they are inarguably different. Before I had a son of my own, I spent a lot of time thinking and wondering about what kind of mom I would be. I had a lot of experience with kids, and even worked for a year as a nanny, but I knew none of that translated into being an actual parent.
I assumed a lot of my inherent personality traits would carry over into parenthood – like it or not. My neat freak tendencies, anxiety and worries, tendencies to overschedule and overplan – surely I’d continue to do all of this. What I have found is that parenthood has surprised me in ways I couldn’t have predicted.
My name is Emily, and my car is covered in Cheerios.
Before you have kids, it is easy to assume you won’t be “that mom” and you won’t do “those things.” And while you will probably stick to your guns on some of it, other things will suddenly seem much less important in the bigger picture.
Here are all the different “moms” I didn’t think I’d be, that of course I’ve ultimately become. Let me preface by saying that there is nothing wrong with any of these – like I said, these are all things that I do. But it’s funny to think about how naive I was before, and how different things are now.