My son is all toddler, all the time right now. From completely unreasonable tantrums, to destroying everything in his wake, to a general lack of listening and obeying, it’s definitely a difficult stage and some days I just want to throw in the towel.
But, I do have one small advantage in this stage of toddler parenting. My son is my second child, and my daughter, who will be 4 1/2 this month, was not long ago just about the exact same toddler terror that my son is right now.
She did all of the same things that my son is now doing, and then some. She’s my super spirited, super strong-willed, super independent child.
But, she has grown out of so much of her worst behavior, and she is giving me hope in the midst of this season of parenting my son. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
What used to be almost total resistance on the part of my daughter to anything I asked, has turned into willingness, and even a good attitude about it.
A few months ago, I asked my daughter to do something, bracing for the usual fight that I was sure would follow, and instead she responded, “Yes, Mom!” and proceeded to do what I had asked her to do. My jaw hit the floor, I think I just about fell over, and I wondered, Who are you and what did you do with my daughter?! But her willingness and compliance has only improved since that point on.
I have also really begun to see some benefits of the proactive and positive parenting techniques that we are trying to use with our children. My daughter is much easier to reason with, to get to help with things, and just overall much more pleasant to be around then she was even just a year ago.
I have seen such an amazing change in my daughter over the past six months, and I am just loving the little person that she is becoming, and watching her personality grow and shine.
So, all this is to say, I know there is hope for my son too. He will grow out of it.
I realize, of course, that he is a completely different person than my daughter, and may not go through the exact same changes that she does. And yet, I now see, more tangibly then I ever have before because of my daughter, that there will be an end to this toddler madness as he grows, and learns, and matures. And in just a few short years, I’ll be looking back at this time as just a fleeting memory.