’Tis the season when parents of new babies and toddlers ask themselves, Do I dare take a real vacation with little Johnny? It’s a tough call. You’re several years away from Disney World and, if it’s your first kid, you’re probably not too many years removed from a pre-baby getaway to the islands, or a once-in-a-lifetime trek through Europe. You remember fun and happiness. Can you still find that sort of fun on vacation?

Hate to break to you, but no. You can, however, manage to somewhat enjoy yourself. So here are some dos and don’ts to survive vacation time with a little one in tow.