Toddler Setbacks: Who is to Blame?Emily McClements
I was away this past weekend at the Blissdom conference in Nashville, TN and my awesome hubs stayed home with our kiddos. I am so appreciative and thankful that he took time off work and held down the fort while I was away.
After all, he has never left me in sole care of the kids and household for four whole days, and I know if he did, I would probably just about go insane. Even on normal days I watch the clock, just waiting for him to walk through the door at six. I really can’t imagine it being all on me, all day, every day, for four days.
But, and there is always a but, isn’t there?
My kids picked up a few bad habits while I was away, and now I find myself trying to get them back to the place they were before I left, without blaming my husband for the setbacks.
First of all, we’ve been having some sleeping issues in our house, so we finally bit the bullet and moved our kids bedroom to our first floor so they could be closer to us. They were coming down from their upstairs bedroom and sleeping with us every night, but by moving them downstairs we had gotten to the point where they were sleeping through the night in their own beds, except for the occasional potty break for my oldest.
While I was gone, they obviously missed me, and my hubs is a super heavy sleeper, so they basically climbed into our bed and slept with their daddy without him even realizing it.
So, let’s just say the last two nights have not been so fun. And I was up with them for over an hour last night, trying to get them to go back to sleep in their own beds, and there is still one in my bed with my husband right now as I write.
Secondly, my son was very nearly potty trained before I left. He would only wear a diaper at nap time and bed time. He often had accidents at home, but would always stay dry when we were out somewhere, and I would make sure that I took him to the potty on a regular basis.
Yesterday, I don’t think he peed in the potty once.
And he spent at least half the day with no clothes on.
So last night as we were getting ready for bed, I asked my husband about these things, just to get a better idea of where the kids were at and what I am dealing with here, so I can try to get them back on track.
Yeah, not such a good idea. As much as I want to blame my husband and be frustrated that he didn’t stay on top of these things while I was gone, I can’t.
My husband did the best he could do with our kids while I was gone, they had fun, they were well fed (which also basically means that got to eat a lot of junk food we don’t normally eat), and the house is not in too bad of shape. I really don’t think the same would be true if my husband left me with the kids for four days.
So, I really can’t complain. Yes, we have a few minor setbacks. But really, isn’t that always true in parenting? You might take one step forward and then a day later take two steps back. Almost nothing is completely smooth, or uphill. There are bumps in the road, detours along the way, and you just have to keep moving forward.
We’ll tackle these issues the same way we do when any issues come up with our kids. One step at a time, and together as a team.