Top 10 Things Parenting a Toddler Taught Me About MarriageBeth Anne Ballance
Six years ago this week, my husband and I met at the end of an aisle and said “I do.”
I just love looking back on that day and I am so thankful for the life we’ve built together so far. It hasn’t always been easy — we’ve had job loss and miscarriage and mental health issues — but the good far outweighs the bad.
Kind of like raising a toddler, there are storms and trials and phases that aren’t fun, but the end result is a love unlike no other and a life full of adventure. While parenting is always a stress on marriage between discipline and exhaustion and being pulled in a million directions, it can also teach more about marriage and sacrifice than any marriage workshop.
These are the lessons that being a momma has taught me about being a wife:
There will be phases 1 of 10Some are amazing, wonderful phases that make your toes tingle. Other phases make you cry and stomp your feet at how awful it is. But they are phases and they will pass.
We’ll get mad about the silly stuff 2 of 10Spilled milk. Late bills. Lost teddy bears. The petty stuff is going to rear it's ugly head and will make us mad, but the point is to get through it without throwing a tantrum and saying things we don't mean.
It takes a lot of sacrifice 3 of 10There are many things I've given up to be a mom, like sleeping in and my figure and selfishness. But I'm also a wife and it's important to give, give, give my whole heart to both of my guys.
Protect each other 4 of 10Being a mom has brought out the "momma bear" in me, but I need to protect my husband just as fiercely - emotionally and physically.
He’s my lovey 5 of 10Harrison can't fall asleep without his stuffed monkey and giraffe, and I'm finding that I do not sleep well without my husband by my side. He's what brings me comfort and bravery in my life.
He’s not me and I’m not him 6 of 10We like different things, no matter how much we love each other or how much time we spend together. And that's perfectly okay.
Get excited about the little stuff 7 of 10Nothing brings me more happiness than watching Harrison freak his toddler freak over an $0.89 Matchbox car. Keeping the little stuff in mind in our marriage is so important, like picking up his favorite coffee creamer or him putting fresh sheets on the bed before the weekend.
Learn to say I’m sorry 8 of 10We're teaching Harrison to say he's sorry, to feel regret in hopes that his behavior will change. I find myself still needing this lesson in marriage when my pride or temper takes over and I just need to remember to say "I'm sorry" and mean it.
It’s okay to be silly 9 of 10The day in and day out can make us feel old and stale, but all we have to do is take inspiration from our wild, silly little guy. We tickle each other and blow raspberries on bellies and sing funny lyrics to songs even when the toddler isn't in the car.
It is worth it 10 of 10Family is what matters in all the crazy, wonderful, hard parts. At the end of the day, if we love each other than we've done beautifully.
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