Over the past week, the blog “Reasons My Son Is Crying” has gone viral. I think every parent, especially toddler parents, completely understand this dad and the hilarity of the toddler tantrums. Wrong spoon? Wrinkled sock? You won’t let him lick the inside of the toilet? TEARS. EPIC TEARS. My husband and I have laughed over the entire blog, wishing that we thought of it first.
But on top of the regular toddler tears, we have a different crying problem. We have a 3 1/2 year old “cry baby” on our hands. (Should I pause here to disclaim that I’m not calling my son names? I’m simply a child of the 80′s that has no idea what else to call someone who cries continuously as a way to manipulate.)
Here’s the problem – if my kid is hanging out with other kids and doesn’t get what he wants, he cries. He’s a sweet kid and smart, but he’s also an only child and very used to having the schedule revolve around his desires. Not in a bad way, but just that if we’re coloring inside and he wants to play outside, there’s nothing stopping us from playing outside. It’s not like if he had a sibling and he’s coloring and wants to go outside, but the baby is up from a nap and he needs to wait. So needless to say, changes in activities during playdates that aren’t his idea are not well-received. Which is a little odd because he’s in daycare during the day and the schedule there does NOT revolve around him.
I’m afraid that the neighborhood kids won’t want to play with him because he spends 90% of playdates in tears or tattletelling or whimpering about how he doesn’t like stuff. I didn’t like cry babies when I was growing up – they were just plain ol’ fun suckers. After talking to friends and more seasoned moms, here’s a few ideas we’re going to use to work on his “cry baby” attitude, so the kids in the ‘hood will still want to play with him by the end of the summer.
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