There are times in life where things seem to just keep getting worse and worse with no end in sight. Pressure, stress, money troubles, and life events can drag us down until we become physically and emotionally ill.
When I was in the midst of my money problems, I definitely faced anxiety and depression. I was worried about how I would come up with the money for my bills, and I was embarrased that I didn’t know how to stop my bad spending habits. That definitely caused my anxiety and depression to worsen because there’s nothing more defeating than knowing you must change your ways but having no idea how to start. Sometimes, people don’t even acknowledge the toll that financial stress can cause. Depression and anxiety are two serious manifestations of stress that should not be taken lightly, and they can impact every area of your life.
Luckily, there are things you can do to ease your emotions and adapt to a more positive way of life while struggling with well, all that life has to throw our way.
Below are some of my favorite ways to bounce back after (and during) tough financial times, and I would love to hear about how you get through tough times in your life.
Evaluate Your Purpose
When things keep going wrong, it is natural to wonder, why bother? Rather than delve into the bad times, consider what has kept you going in the past and what your heart’s desire is for the future. Whether it be about family, work, or personal satisfaction, explore what your purpose is in life.
Stick Close to Loved Ones
During our busy lives we tend to lose touch with those we love most. Now is a great time to reach out to friends and family you cherish most. Spend quality time with them to remember the good things about life and welcome the support and advice they offer.
Be Willing to Change
Life will never stay the same. It can be difficult to cope with the way it changes but you have to find a way to except the things that change. For instance, instead of bottoming out because your daughter left for college, see the glass as half-full. Enjoy the fact you have raised a successful child who is off to see and do better things.
Find Your Optimism
Not all people are naturally optimistic. But you don’t have to be. Find out what makes you feel positive and surround yourself with it. Whether it be inspirational quotes on the refrigerator or photographs you love to look at, keep things around you that remind you of the good things life has to offer.
Make a habit of creating a gratitude list where notice all the things that you’re happy about. The things could be as little as, “I didn’t have to run for the bus” to big things like “I got the promotion I worked hard for.”
Care for Yourself First
If you are feeling drained and frustrated after putting everyone else first, commit to taking a day or two in the very near future just for you regardless of what others say. Go to the movies alone, enjoy a day at the spa (or have an at-home spa day), or even lock the bedroom door and sleep the day away.
Understand Your Achievements
Take the time to think about the high points of your life and all you have accomplished so far. People often forget to congratulate themselves for a job well done and instead rely on the praise of others for their self-worth. Write down the achievements in your life you are most proud of and reflect on how great it felt to be successful.
I know it can be hard to pay attention to accomplishments since humility and humbleness (especially in women) is so encouraged (I know I struggle with that) but take the time to relish in your awesomeness!
Envision the Near Future
Visualization techniques can be highly beneficial, so take the time to daydream each day. Imagine what you would like to be doing in the near future. See yourself going places, doing things, being happy. Don’t censor your visions. Just go with it while you take time to relax and refocus.
Realize That Sometimes It’s Good When Things Don’t Work Out
Now, this might feel a little strange to consider but have you ever really, really wanted something and things just didn’t go your way? I know that’s happened many times in my life. I was bummed out and disappointed at the time but looking back I’m actually glad that things didn’t go my way!
Shift your thinking so you can accept the possibility that things might just be shaping up to be better than you ever even imagined or hoped for! It’s possible!
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