10 Bloggers: “The Post I’m Most Proud Of”

Post Most Proud of Title CollageI’ve written pieces I thought (OK, hoped) were funny, sobbed as I’ve poured out my soul into an essay, done some of the hardcore interview-and-investigative work many of us writers dreamed of as students in j-school, and produced some pretty solid articles on important, empowering and heart-tugging topics. I’ve also written about Jessica Simpson. A lot. Too much. This is not a back-patting thing to say. Among bloggers who write many places online a week for a living, I do what we do – hammer away at the keyboard and hope the connections outweigh the awful, accusatory, unhelpful, all-caps troll comments.  Then comes the post. That one that speaks the quietest whispers of our soul. That one that shares the secrets we’ve kept and invites readers inside a very private moment of bliss or grief or rawness or embarrassment or of, as Heather Barmore says of the post she shares here, “all of the feelings.” I didn’t intend for the post I wrote about watching a dying man pulled from the ocean to be the post that I’d say is the one I am most proud of, but that is what it became. Hopefully, one day or next year or a few posts from now, I will say the same about something else I’ve written. But today, this is the one that says the most about who I am as a writer and where I am in time right now – humbled, grateful, trying. In getting that about the paragraphs I wrote, I needed to hear from other bloggers I follow and read and respect about which post they are most proud of right now. And I have to say, I am blown away by the words they published and the moments they’ve shared. Here, compiled are 10 bloggers on the post they’d like to speak the loudest. Read. Weep. Laugh. Relate. All of the feelings. Read more of Jessica’s adventures as a single mom in the city at Sassafrass. Meet up on Twitter.  Ogle shoes together on Pinterest.  Read on: 

  • I Went From A Promising Journalist To A Knocked Up, Unmarried Waitress by Laura Seldon 1 of 12
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    Laura Seldon went from sitting at the anchor desk home to a pot-smoking boyfriend she didn't love. And then, after too long being restless and unhappy, she went from the news station to being a cocktail waitress, and then, to being pregnant. In this post she is most proud of, Seldon details the raw and revelatory moments that followed, writing, "I finally gave my heart to another human being, only to have it crushed worse than I ever imagined. I tried so hard to protect myself for 26 years, but it didn't make a damn of a difference." This post is featured on XOJane. 


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  • My Middle Name by Jim Lin 2 of 12

    "This one. One of my only serious ones ever," reveals Jim Lin of BusyDadBlog. It's about my experience being bullied as a child for being Asian."

    More than an explanation of one moment on the school bus, this post winds together many experiences of taunting, shaming and survival that made Lin question the perfection of his neighborhood and beauty of his family, seek out a new school and evolve into a father who helps his kids love their culture.

    A moment from this poignant read goes like this: 

    Having grown up in a multi-cultural part of Boston, the only ethnic stereotyping I ever encountered was Bugs Bunny putting on a rice paddy hat every once in a while and bowing at Elmer Fudd. When you're 7, it's kind of funny. When it's not happening to you, it's kind of funny.

    Moving to the suburbs in 4th grade taught me a lot about race. Namely, that it mattered. That when you're different, or your parents speak to you in a tongue no one else can understand, people are allowed to make fun of you.


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  • The Night Kitchen by Whit Honea 3 of 12

    "I might give you a different post every time you ask, I'm fickle like that, but this one still hits home and it's one of the few that I actually go back and read. I can still feel the night," explains Whit Honea of Honea Express. One of the funniest people I follow on Facebook, this Whit post shares one small moment in his kitchen with his boy that speaks to the deep grief of losing a grandparent, the comfort of being in a quiet house with the people you love sleeping soundly around you, and of the daily (and middle-of-the-nightly) exercises of care. A few words from this heart-tugging post go like this: The man looked at the kitchen, surprised by surreal clarity and unexpected sobriety. He looked at the kitchen and his thoughts went to his grandmother in another state in a strange bed in a lonely hospital who had been told just hours before that she was dying. 

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  • Signs by Wendy Weetabix 4 of 12
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     "Probably this one because I was really careful not to get too maudlin but it still makes me teary when I read it (obviously it was incredibly personal)," says writer Wendy Weetabix. Here, she looks for signs in the family housing facility where she resided during her husband's long and difficult hospital stay. Those signs point to heartache and hope, an Amish family and, sometimes, home. She writes: There are a lot of signs with homilies and Hallmark card sayings on them, posted around the place. One about a caterpillar becoming a butterfly. One about how God is handling your problems today. One about how life is beautiful in all forms and all stages. No matter where you look, you can't escape the fact that death is hard work for everyone. 

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  • My Sister is Gay and Getting (Legally) Married by Yvonne Condes 5 of 12
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    "I wrote this about my sister right after DOMA was struck down. I love it because it has such a happy ending for her and her family. And I love the picture," says  Yvonne Condes of MomsLA. Peek into her sister's journey to acceptance, love and the state-approved altar in this beautiful, supportive post that begins, "It was a perfect day in Southern California. The sun was shining and the breeze was blowing softly through the papel picado banners strung along the patio. My sister was getting married and—after years of heartache—all of our family was there." 

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  • Superman’s Heroes by Amy Sneed Heinz 6 of 12
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    Amy Heinz of Using Our Words chose this post, a meditation on her father, who a neighbor called Superman and who she says defied many odds through strength, laughter and working with many other heroes. She says she's most proud of it because it honors her father's life and legacy and "because I know the people on the receiving end truly needed these words."  Amy begins: ...he was fighting the battle for his life. Even doctors trying to match his optimism said he'd be extremely lucky to survive 18 months after surgery. But we knew the odds and the reality of the type of brain tumor he had. That amount of time wasn't likely. Unless you were Superman. And then you might just make it 77-1/2 months—baffling doctors and touching lives all along the way.

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  • How To Mourn? by Cristie Ritz King 7 of 12
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    "I love this one about judging people's mourning. I wrote it after the Gabby Gifford's shooting and come back to it often. Weird topic I know, but something I felt so strongly about," details Cristie Ritz King of The Right Hand Mom. Cristie's experience at laughing in the face of death opens her compassion to people who seem to react in all the wrong ways after tragedy. Cristie writes: We stood outside our dying mother's door and my siblings and I found stupid things to laugh about. I remember thinking that the staff was going to think we were heartless fools. But they didn't. They allowed us whatever we needed to keep moving forward at the worst time of our lives-even if it was inappropriately laughing. We found survival in laughter.


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  • You Will Never Be As Hard on a Single, Working Mother as She is On Herself by DeAnn Malone 8 of 12
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    "This post was written the first time I actually gave myself permission to not be a perfect single mother," explains executive coach DeAnn Malone. "I was still dealing with balancing it all and it was a step forward to a new normal." 

    By detailing her own after-work hours, DeAnn shows what the realities of single motherhood are for her and other women she knows. She writes:  

    In your life there are single mothers you work with, volunteer with, or are friends with.  It is okay to admit that you get frustrated when they are unreliable and you have to deal with it.  The most important thing you need to know when you do this is whatever you are thinking or saying is nothing compared to what is going on in their heads.  You can't make a single working mother feel bad - she does that herself.  And she tends to work harder to try to constantly make up for everything she thinks she is doing wrong. 

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  • One Day in November by Heather Barmore 9 of 12
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    "This one brings up all of the feelings," Heather Barmore of Poliogue and No Pasa Nada says succinctly. But read through all of the words and you may feel them all, too. These are my favorite: But you hope. I hope for a lot of things. That my check clears or that a pair of perfect shoes are available in my size or that one day I'll be able to fit into my favorite dress again. I hope that the Giants win this weekend and I hope there's more wine. I'm neither sentimental nor idealistic, but yeah, sometimes I hope. We all hope every single day because it's what gets us up in the morning: That hope that things will be better or just as good as the day before. That hope that whatever we are working towards - either alone or as a people - will go well and get better. It's just that on any given day we don't realize how much we hope because we never outwardly say it because it's just a little too trite and rainbows and kittens to say that you spend your days hoping.  

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  • A Tribute to My Aunt: Life Perspective From Cancer by Beth Blecherman 10 of 12
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    "My most proud on the 'sharing emotion' side is my tribute post to my aunt," Beth Blecherman of TechMamas says. Beth shares this vivacious, glamorous photo of her Aunt Cyndi, who recently died of ovarian cancer, and the lessons she and the disease left with loved ones. Beth writes here: We had the chance to show our love before Aunt Cyndi passed. But that also made me think about some of the family relationships in my life that I was holding back showing my love to.


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  • The Day We May Have Seen A Man Die by Jessica Ashley 11 of 12
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    When I wrote this post, I knew a lot of emotion would bubble up. What I didn't realize is that it would sweep over me like a wave, and that so many people would feel it, too -- from their own experiences in watching someone die or come close to death. I'm overwhelmed by the power of feeling helpless together, and I am very glad to connect with readers after this tough, lingering moment.


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  • For more… 12 of 12
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    ...posts by Jessica Ashley on single parenting, soulful moments and shoes, visit Sassafrass or Sassafrass Says So, right here on Babble.

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