Can't You Just Relax?Stefanie Wilder Taylor
As moms, we have a serious need to relax. At the end of typical day I’ve probably experienced more than my share of screaming and yelling (only 25% coming from me), logged time in LA traffic, catered to the myriad needs of three very different children and done a hells a lot of laundry. You know the deal. You’ve done it. Yet, I have a very tough time relaxing!
Every so often for a holiday or birthday I have been given a gift certificate for a massage/spa treatment. Chalk it up to a dislike of strange people rubbing me or just a fear of Enya but getting a massage always sounded about as relaxing as singing for Simon Cowell. Yes, I’m fully aware that I’m the only woman on the planet that has that hang-up.
If I explore the issue more deeply I guess I’d have to admit that I’ve always had trouble relaxing. And especially if there’s real or imagined pressure to do so. My body just seems to have the opposite reaction. It used to be if a nurse airily said, “Go ahead and pee in this cup” my bladder would close up like a steel trap. Didn’t matter if I’d had a two liter bottle of Diet Coke for breakfast, no pee would be leaving my body until I got home. For many years I couldn’t pee in a stall if someone was next to me. I’d have to pretend I was “just changin’ a tampon” and rustle around some paper, prematurely flush or do something to distract from the lack of peeing going on. It was embarrassing and uncomfortable to say the least.
So, even though I’ve worked my way past the shy bladder issue, I still don’t like to put myself in the path of any forced relaxation situations. I avoid yoga, meditation, hypnosis, staring into space and never indulge in any sort of deep relaxation spa activities. But as I mentioned in a past post, I do love a facial! There’s something delightful about going to a spa, drinking ice water with lemon, getting my hands rubbed and strange potions applied to my face. Plus the warm blanket is like cotton heaven. But unless you’re a Kardashian you can’t go spa it up every day.
Therefore, I’ve been forced to come up with other “relaxation alternatives.” Here are a few of my favorites:
Thank you to Brita for sponsoring this series of posts. It’s really inspired me to think of ways to be better to myself and my body.