10 Things I Hear All the Time Now That I am a Mom of Two

It’s a big transition bringing a new baby into the home when you have a toddler around. Thankfully, we are now six months down the road and things are finally starting to fall into place. I am slowly finding my groove and getting used to being a mom of two great little girls.

The one thing that I haven’t gotten used to is all of the comments that I get from people when they see me out with both girls. I don’t know if it has to do with living in the city or if people make comments to moms of two (or more) all the time. But whatever it may be, I am completely shocked at how much I am spoken to about both girls or my mothering skills.

Check out the things I hear all the time now that I am a mom of two after the jump!

  • Wow. You have your hands full. 1 of 10
    Wow. You have your hands full.
    I hear this all the time when I have Avery in the Ergo and holding Harlan's hand. I don't think it looks that crazy to see someone walking down the street with two kids, but apparently some people do. We also have two dogs in our apartment. There are many times when I take both dogs out for a walk with the girls. That is when the comments really start rolling in. Almost everyone I walk by either stares or tells me I have my hands full. Again, I don't understand what all the fuss is about, it's just part of our daily routine.
  • Let me help you with that. 2 of 10
    Let me help you with that.
    It is nice to know that people are always willing to help me out when I am out with both girls. I am always offered help getting on the bus, heading down the subway stairs, and even at the grocery store. I love that people are always generous and courteous to help a mom out! There should definitely be more people out there like that!
  • I honestly don’t know how you do it. 3 of 10
    I honestly don't know how you do it.
    I think that I get this a lot because I am a full time work at home mom. It's honestly not the easiest thing in the world, but it's the only thing I know and it works for us. I love doing what I do. I realize it's not for everyone, but balancing two little girls at home and writing is what I love. Wouldn't have it any other way.
  • Are they both yours? 4 of 10
    Are they both yours?
    Probably another question that I get a lot because I live in the city. When I first moved here with Harlan I used to have other women speak to me as if I was her nanny. Apparently I am a young mother here in NYC. When we are out at the playground or taking a class, I have people ask me all the time if they are both mine. I used to be shocked and appalled by this question. Now I just politely answer yes and walk away.
  • When are you going to have the next one? 5 of 10
    When are you going to have the next one?
    I thought this question would go away once I had Avery. I guess I was wrong, because Avery was not even a month old before I was asked this question. I understand that people want to know and are naturally curious, but whether or not I want to bring another child into this world is something for my husband and I to discuss, not with a perfect stranger.
  • How is your older one adjusting? 6 of 10
    How is your older one adjusting?
    People are naturally curious how Harlan is adjusting to having someone else in our household. It's a big deal to bring a new baby into the house with a toddler around. I think because I kept Harlan very involved in my pregnancy, she was naturally very excited for us to bring Avery home. We've only had a couple issues with jealousy, but overall she loves having a sibling at home!
  • Do you ever sleep? 7 of 10
    Do you ever sleep?
    Why even ask that question? We all know the answer is no. Even with one baby you aren't getting enough sleep. But, I think that once you become a parent, sleep doesn't become as much of a necessity as it did before kids. I would sleep all day prior to having kids because I thought my body needed it. Little did I know I can function very well with a nice cup of coffee and six hours (if I'm lucky) of sleep.
  • What do you do with them all day? 8 of 10
    What do you do with them all day?
    People ask me this all the time as if I am locked up in a dungeon with the girls. I get this question all the time! To be honest, the girls and I have a pretty busy schedule, but a great routine. Although I work full time from home, they still get to spend plenty of time with me. We go to the park, playground, classes, Harlan goes to preschool, and I still find time to work in between. New York City is definitely not lacking in the children's activities department. There is always something to do no matter what the day, time, or weather.
  • Are you planning on staying in the city? 9 of 10
    Are you planning on staying in the city?
    Ah the dreaded question from nearly everyone I talk to. The norm here in the city is for families to move out to the suburbs after having more than one child. Having two kids tends to get a little cramped in these small NYC apartments and they realize they would much rather have a nice house and backyard for their kids to play in. I am the exact opposite. I love the city and love having my girls grow up here. The space (or lack there of) never gets to me because there is always so much to do outside.
  • Be honest. Tell me how life is with two. 10 of 10
    Be honest. Tell me how life is with two.
    I get this the most from moms that are thinking about expanding their family or are pregnant and expecting number two. I'm not going to lie and tell them that it is the easiest thing in the world. But what I will tell them is that it is a lot easier than I thought it was going to be. I think that I prepared myself for the worst and it turned out to be a really positive experience.

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Read more from Lauren at her personal blog, A Mommy in the City, where she chronicles her life living in New York City with a suburban mentality. For more updates, follow Lauren on FacebookTwitterPinterest, and Instagram! Check out more of Lauren’s Babble posts at Being Pregnant and Baby’s First Year.

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