Children Strengthened My Pro-Choice Views

You can be Pro-Choice and a Mother

Once upon a time, I was a single female who also just so happened to be a huge pro-choice advocate. My views were heavily shaped by the views of my mother and my late sister.

Their stories, their experiences, and their openness about reproductive rights and freedoms started at a young age. Right when I hit puberty, in fact.

It taught me a lot as a young lady and it helped me to form my own opinions on such a tender subject, which we are always seeing front and center in the mainstream news.

But then I became a mother and reproductive rights became more personal and important to me with each pregnancy that I experienced. Then I birthed a daughter and it made my views on the subject of reproductive freedom as a whole, much more staunch and strong.

It took me all this Susan G. Komen mumbo jumbo to snap me back into my views and really remind me of the many reasons I continue to sit down on the pro-choice side. Not just because I think abortion should be legal, but because I think reproductive rights are some of the most important rights for all women.

Including my daughter, who has not even had her first birthday.

  • Pregnancy 1 of 8
    While pregnancy may be a complete walk in the park for some women, for others it is complete hell. I reflect back on my first and third pregnancy. One was considered high risk and the other scared the living crap out of me.
    Was I prepared for complications, an amnio and the possibility of something as serious as stillbirth? Not at all.
    The more I reflect on it, the more I know that NO woman should ever have to be forced to go through what I did. I couldn't wish it upon my worse enemy!
  • Childbirth 2 of 8
    I wish I could say that I had these beautiful storybook births that were something out of The Business of Being Born.
    Unfortunately I had scary surgical births that still upset me when I think of all the details.
    As I said with pregnancy, I wouldn't want to force someone else to go through the pain of childbirth. Not just because of the birth aspect! There's also the matter of informed consent issues, as well as the use of reproductive medicine in the United States today.
  • Birth Control Options 3 of 8
    Birth Control Options
    It seems like every time I turn around, birth control is on the chopping block. Whether it is the insurance companies or Congress trying to jeopardize its use.
    I would hate for my daughter to grow up in a world where women have to go broke to protect themselves or completely skip it, risking the chance of an unplanned pregnancy because someone else wants to make choices about their health.
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  • Foster Care & Adoption 4 of 8
    Foster Care & Adoption
    Before I had kids, I had a job working with children who had been removed from their dangerous situations in their homes. My heart broke repeatedly.
    I grew tired of hearing how great adoption is, when so many kids already were in such desperate need of homes. Why bring more children into a bad situation?
    Granted, adoption is an amazing gift — I hope that some day my husband and I have an opportunity to adopt — but I just don't think it is a cure all to unwanted/unplanned pregnancies.
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  • Laws 5 of 8
    I think the current laws we have regarding the topic are sufficient.
    Nor do I think we should be limiting medical choices based on other peoples beliefs.
    Leave the choice between a woman and her provider, just like birth options!
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  • Pro-choice is NOT Pro-abortion 6 of 8
    Pro-choice is NOT Pro-abortion
    Just because a woman is pro-choice, doesn't mean she is pro-abortion. It also doesn't mean that she will have an abortion in her lifetime.
    In fact my pregnancy with Addison was unplanned, and we were not in a comfortable position for a third child.
    But abortion just wasn't a choice for us, either.
    Photo Credit: Flickr
  • I Trust Women 7 of 8
    I Trust Women
    I trust women to make their own choices in regards to their health care AND their reproductive decisions.
    Birth control, childbirth choices, adoption, parenting ... whatever she feels is the right choice for HER.
    Nothing more, nothing less. I just want people to leave it alone and respect that others feel differently and stop trying to dictate laws that would be based on morals instead of what is lawfully right.
    Photo Credit: Flickr
  • I Want Better For Her 8 of 8
    I Want Better For Her
    I want better for my daughter!
    I want her to not worry about turning a corner and having her choices become limited simply because she is a woman.
    I want her to truly be free!

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