Did I Traumatize My Toddler?Naomi Odes
I weaned my eldest a little over a year ago, when I was three months’ pregnant with Fuzz. After that, Shnook seemed to forget all about the boob before Fuzz was born, despite the fact that he was a voracious nurser up until the very end. Even over the last six months he has been only vaguely interested in my nursing the Fuzz and asked to taste my milk once or twice. However, when I followed up with him he didn’t seem interested.
Yesterday I was pumping and he came up to me and said “I want some Mommy milk.” I told him when I finished pumping he could try some.
When I was done, I went to the kitchen to transfer the milk to the freezer. He climbed up onto the stool next to me.
He said it again:
“I want some Mommy Milk.”
“You want to try it?” I asked.
“Yes, I do.”
“Okay.” I poured a little into a spoon and fed him a taste. What happened next was a combination of hilarious and heartbreaking.
First, he nodded his head ‘yes’ then suddenly shook his head ‘no.’ He had a look of mild panic in his eyes. Then, he began to climb down from the stool.
“I don’t want anymore,” he said. Then, he was out of the kitchen. Just like that.
I’ve heard stories of women that offered the breast to their weaned toddler so as not to leave them out of the bonding experience, only to end up tandem nursing for a year afterward. But, I’ve also heard that if you offer it, a lot of times they realize that it’s not for them. I didn’t want to tell him he couldn’t have any, especially since he didn’t want to actually latch on, just to taste the milk.
So, I’m wondering what was that all about?? Do you think he remembered nursing and it freaked him out? Did he just not like it? He seemed fine after that, but it was a little bit of a disturbing experience. Would you have offered the milk? Should I have offered the boob instead? What do you think?