Crystal Bowersox Talks Idol, Her Son, Love & HappinessMara Siegler
Crystal Bowersox becamse pregnant with her son Tony at age 22 and wanted to do everything possible to give him a good, safe, secure life. This caused her to push aside all of her fears and audition for Idol judges. And the rest, as they say, is television history.
Mama Sox sits down with RedBook in their upcoming issue to talk singing and her son. Here are a few highlights:
On Getting Pregnant: “When I found out I was pregnant, I was 22. It was really scary because I was working the music thing, and with a kid coming, you just can’t live that life with a child. I was single, I was on my own–but I had a great group of friends who backed me up and helped me through the whole thing.”
On Her Childhood: “I had what you could call a chaotic childhood. My parents divorced when I was 2; I went back and forth between my mom’s and dad’s houses for years. But, you know, my parents tried to do the right thing. As crazy as everything was, and as much fighting and everything, there was always a feeling of support from them. They were doing the best they could, and you understand that when you grow up.”
The Hardest Part About being On Idol: “Toward the end of the show, [my ex-boyfriend] big Tony and little Tony were living with me. I’d wake up early to leave for rehearsals, and my son would be sleeping. Then sometimes I wouldn’t get home until 10 to 15 hours later, and he’d already be in bed. It was hard, and I did go talk to Ryan [Seacrest] at one point because he works 24/7 and I knew he would understand. He gave me the best advice: He said the best thing I could ever do was work hard enough now so I could take care of my family.”
The Truth About Her Breakup “I want to make clear how amazing, kind, and generous a person he is, and that he truly considers my son his son and little Tony loves him. He’s been there since my son was about 3 months old. And in a lot of ways, he’s the perfect man; he really is. But ultimately, we both knew it wasn’t going to work out, considering the different lives we were leading. And it’s better to come to that realization than to have an unhappy relationship. Mommy and Daddy need to be happy in order for baby to be happy.”
On The Future: “Once it’s my own tour, he will definitely be with me. And he’ll be able to see and have all these experiences, meet all these new and interesting people, do a lot of unique things a lot of kids don’t get to do. So it’s a lot of new stuff for both of us. I’m looking forward to it. Eventually I’d love to find us a more stable place. I’d like to be either here in L.A. or in New York, because that’s where Mommy can work.”
On Love: “I’d love to have another kid, but as far as love…. You know, love happens when it happens; it’s not something you search for. ‘Cause you won’t find it when you’re looking. And when I think about, Do I want to get married someday?–it’s a strange thing. For me, marriage is about love, not paperwork.”
What Makes Her Most Happy: “Tony’s first word this morning was happy. I am not joking. At some point in the night, I must’ve grabbed him out of his crib and brought him into bed with me, and we woke up this morning cuddling. And he sits up and he looks at me and he goes, ‘Happy.’ And I almost cried. I’m like, ‘Really?’ I’m doing something right and it feels so good. To me, the definition of success is happiness.”
To read the rest of Crystal’s interview, click here.