10 Things Your Daughter Should Know Before 10

It’s not about you.

I love that bit of advice. I wish I had realized that earlier in life. It would have made the early years so, so much easier, less fraught with angst, more … fun.

Lindsey Mead Russell of A Design So Vast has a fantastic story over at the Huffington Post about the 10 things she wants her daughter to know before age 10. It’s a life list of important lessons we all hope might stick but know, deep down, they really have to be learned on their own.

But don’t let that diminish the importance of these gems. Most of these are essential for raising kids, boy or girl.

Take reading, for instance. I bet it would fall to No. 8 or no. 9 on most lists, but Russell says, and I agree, it is a perfect leisure-time portal to other realms, a time to call your own.

Then there are the more important lessons, and I really hope to convey some of these to my own daughter, age 6. Just getting out of kindergarten, she’s navigating a world in which friends are toying with crazy moods and mean words, and I can see sometimes that it drives her crazy and makes her sad.

It’s almost never about you, Russell says:

“But maybe, just maybe, it will help to remember that almost always other people are struggling with their own demons, even if they bump into you by accident.”


Live your life, kid, and don’t let the bastards get you down. At least, that’s how this dad would translate it.

Take a look at Russell’s list and tell me which are the most important you want to pass on to your own kids.

Mike Adamick writes at Cry It Out!

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