Nothing brings the pitchforks out quite like the debate over breastfeeding, now does it? And, personally, not much ruffles my feathers more than mothers being judged for doing what’s best for baby AND FOR THEMSELVES. Because as much as our babies deserve nourishment, good health, and the best care, they also deserve a healthy mommy — both in mind and body.
Despite being a mom who exclusively breastfed each of my kids for a year, I am still an advocate and cheerleader for moms who decide (for whatever reason) that breastfeeding is not for them, like Southern Charm star, Cameran Eubanks.
Known not only for her TV fame, but also for her frank and hilarious Instagram posts chronicling her pregnancy, this isn’t Eubanks’s first rodeo when it comes to sanctimommies.
In fact, she went off on judgy moms regarding this very topic a few months ago while still pregnant, emphatically stating that it’s really none of our damn business how she feeds her child.
And now, three months after giving birth to daughter Palmer Corinne Wimberly, she’s openly sharing that she’s all done with breastfeeding. Not because of mastitis or that she didn’t produce enough milk or a poor latch. Eubanks says in her Instagram post, “I’m quitting because I’m just plain OVER IT. By CHOICE.”
Eubanks decided to “open the flood gates” and help other moms in the same position feel less alone and more supported in doing what’s best for them.
“I know I will get lectured and judged by this but it doesn’t bother me. I need some freedom back for my sanity and the bottle and formula will allow that,” Eubanks says.
I love her honesty and refusal to explain herself or justify her decision to the Internet. She’s made her own decision and will now nourish her beautiful baby with formula. Little Palmer will be great and Mom will be great and everyone can just deal.
“You are not a bad mother if you don’t like breastfeeding,” her post continues. “A happy Mama is the best gift you can give your baby (at least in my opinion).”
Mine too, Cameran. MINE TOO.
I have happy mom friends who breastfeed their happy, healthy babies. And I have happy mom friends who formula feed their happy, healthy babies. I also have mom friends who are drowning trying to breastfeed even though it’s killing them. Do they think it’s best for baby to have a completely depleted, ashen-faced mother barely holding on to her sanity just to give some breast milk?
Listen, I’ve been doing this mom gig for nearly 10 years now, and this is what I’ve learned: You do you, girlfriends. Love on those babies and feed those babies in a way that keeps them healthy and keeps you healthy. You owe NO ONE, NOT ONE SINGLE PERSON an explanation. Not your mother-in-law. Not your pediatrician. Not your next door neighbor. And certainly not your Instagram followers.
Just ask Cameran Eubanks. She’ll tell you how to shut out the haters, snuggle up to that tiny human you made, and enjoy these fleeting, precious moments before they become a toddler who poops on your living room rug. Because they will, breastfed or not.