Drew Barrymore has been in the public eye for much of her life. She has captivated us as an actor, producer, author, advocate, and all around good-natured woman. Although she’s famous, she has a down-to-earth, vulnerable, open quality about her that just makes you want to like her. You watch her on screen and picture yourselves laughing for hours, divulging your most intimate secrets to each other over a nice bottle of red while brushing each other’s hair. Or maybe that’s just me.
She added the title of mother four years ago when she gave birth to her daughter Olive. Daughter Frankie followed two years later. While her marriage to their father, Will Kopelman, ended in divorce earlier this year, she recently opened up about how they are managing to make the sometimes tricky waters of co-parenting work for them.
According to Barrymore, their secret is “planning, planning and more planning.” She told Entertainment Tonight over the weekend: “Constant plans. I woke up to an email from my children’s grandmother, Coco, this morning saying, ‘OK, so I think for my birthday we’re going to do it on the 14th. Can you make that date because it’s not the same without you. I have to make sure that date works for you.’”
Barrymore said that her former mother-in-law’s “love and acceptance means the world to [her].”
It is no secret that communication is key for divorced parents. This is particularly important during the holidays. Not only does it save frustration and chaos during an already hectic season, it helps level set expectations for everyone involved, not only for your kids, but for extended family as well. Halloween, for example? Barrymore says, “We, as a family, have three dates for this Halloween.”
As Barrymore told Entertainment Tonight, “Families are many different definitions in this day and age.” With 40-50 percent of today’s marriages ending in divorce, there are a lot of families figuring out a new normal. It takes two devoted, mature participants to make it happen. I’ve seen children with the alternative situation where parents constantly argue over every little situation and refuse flexibility and without a doubt, everyone loses.
My ex-husband and I divorced 8 years ago. We now live in the same neighborhood, share custody, parenting decisions, expenses, and a general sense that even though our marriage did not work out, we ended up with two amazing kids who will always bond us together. We sit together at sporting events, talk daily, and make sure our kids know all information passes between the two households. Of course there was bitterness in the beginning. But here’s the thing: We could either choose to be hostile or we could chose to show our kids that we are still a family, one that just looks a little different now. We chose the latter.
Clearly, Barrymore is showing her kids family comes before anything else. And when you are divorced with a child, that’s really the best you can do.
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