It’s often hard for us to relate to the glamorous lives celebrities lead. That’s probably why we love living vicariously through them on Instagram so much. Stepping out onto the red carpet, accepting awards before millions, having their faces plastered on the cover of magazines … we know those realities will (probably) never be ours, but man is it fun to imagine they could be.
Every now and then, though, the spotlight shines on a star who makes you realize they’re really no different than you are — and Jenna Dewan just became that star for me.
Until their surprise split in April, the 37-year-old green-eyed beauty was probably best known for being Channing Tatum’s wife, as well as the mother to their 5-year-old, Everly. But make no mistake — Dewan is a force to be reckoned with in her own right; both on the dance floor and on the big screen.
In a recent interview with Harper’s Bazaar, the star opened up for the first time since her split, and it turns out, she’s doing better than fine adjusting to her “new normal.” And it’s a new normal that’s still filled with “a lot of love” between her and Channing.
“We’re just getting used to it,” she shared. “We’re in a very positive energy together, trying to be the best parents to Everly. We support each other.”
She also got real about feeling like a hot mess mom every morning. (You know, just like the rest of us.)
“I’m a total mess,” Dewan admitted to the mag. “I’ve never once woken up early with enough time to get ready before I get my daughter to school … My hair’s always wet, I’m always changing clothes. I mean, it’s always a little haphazard in my life.”
These days, Dewan says she’s just working towards becoming the best version of herself she can be — something she’s been doing since she had an epiphany a two years ago, while working with a non-profit in Peru. It was there she says she told herself, “Alright, let’s make your life the best version of your life that it can be. Let’s think broader. Let’s think bigger.”
Dewan admits this is still a work in progress, but since that trip she says, “I expanded, I grew up, I matured. I’m a very ambitious, passionate person. And when an idea comes in, and once you see the light, it’s really hard to un-see the light.”
It might be easy to assume that this personal evolution and quest to find a bigger sense of purpose in this world is what ultimately led to her divorce. But Dewan was quick to point out that this just isn’t the case.
“The moves I’m making are completely not related to my marriage or separation, interestingly enough,” she shared. “I was always very happy being a wife.”
Yet even in that happiness, she kept asking herself the same questions so many of us find ourselves asking as we get older: “‘Who are you? What do you want to give to the world? What excites you?'”
“Those feelings started bubbling up for me, naturally … so I really wanted to expand my life, and myself,” the actress continued. “And that was my journey, no one else’s.”
When asked how it feels to be on her own again after so many years, she was honest — it feels good.
“I feel a sense of joy and freedom and excitement, truly, about a new chapter in my life,” Dewan shared. “And I have no attachments to how that’s going to look, or what that’s going to be. I feel really open, and I feel hopeful.”
As someone who’s experienced this myself, I can’t tell you how important I think it is for wives and mothers going through divorce to take heart in this part of Dewan’s message. Divorce doesn’t have to mean an end. It can mean an opportunity for you to start a new path heading toward a purpose you wouldn’t have been able to get to otherwise.
Dewan also told Bazaar that she’s investing a lot of time exploring her spirituality and doesn’t skimp on time spent surrounded by her supportive girlfriends. (She obviously knows that making room for good things to come her way is key.)
“It is a new dawn,” she shared. “There is a joy and there is a vulnerability to it. But I have a lot of hope for what the new chapter of my life will be.”
So do I, Jenna. So do I.