The job of parenthood is ever-changing, and never is that more apparent than when you add a new baby to the mix. A new life tends to mean that a myriad of adjustments must be made, because we all know that caring for a newborn is a round-the-clock, dizzying responsibility.
John Legend and Chrissy Teigen recently welcomed adorable baby Miles to their brood, and now that they have a baby and a toddler (Luna, who is 2) at home, the couple admits to incorporating some changes to their parenting style.
“When Chrissy’s breastfeeding, I’m out playing with Luna in the yard,” Legend recently told reporters during the Los Angeles Dodgers Foundation Blue Diamond gala at Dodgers Stadium, as Us Weekly reports.
Legend reveals that this separation from Teigen is a new approach for the couple, but that it’s what’s working for them right now.
“The idea of splitting up is a little different than what we had before,” Legend explained. “But it’s good to have two of us there to handle the two of them.”
Ah, yes. My husband and I have referred to it as moving to man-to-man defense. It’s an efficient way to get everyone’s needs met, and a fantastic way for a partner to support a new mother.
Another celebrity couple, Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard, have also incorporated more of a tag-team approach to raising their kids. As Bell once explained to Us Weekly, she and Shepard “switch kids all the time.”
“If I’m talking to the 2½-year-old and I’m done, I’ll just be like, ‘We’ve got to switch. I don’t want to talk to this kid anymore,’” she explained.
Oh man, have I been there. Being a mom to three boys has taught me that it is possible to be oversaturated with your kids, or one kid in particular. It doesn’t mean you are a bad parent, or love them any less. It’s just a part of life. We all need some separation from our loved ones at certain times; it’s healthy. If there are two of you around, it makes it easier to get this separation.
For Legend, this division of responsibilities has only made him feel closer to Teigen.
“It made us more of a team, even more so than we were before,” the talented singer explained. “When you have a joint project like this, raising kids together, I think for us, it’s brought us closer together.”
I felt the same way about my husband, watching him taking on the role of fatherhood. We’d often split up parenting responsibilities when a new baby came along as well, and continued to do so as our kids have grown up.
With a new baby, I always felt like breastfeeding was taking up half of my day. As much as I missed being around my husband, it was a huge relief to have him be responsible for our other child, so that I could focus on the baby whenever possible.
When that third baby came along, adjustments had to be made again. My husband and I went from man-to-man to zone defense, and it was a whole different ball game.
Our division of responsibilities is a never-ending game of tag now, and we’ve also had to learn how to incorporate some self-care into the mix to keep from going crazy.
In a perfect world, this would mean breaks and vacations as a couple. In reality, it usually means that we take turns giving each other alone time due to lack of babysitters. I watch our three boys while he goes fly-fishing, and then he watches them while I eat a giant plate of nachos by myself at my favorite restaurant and scour some consignment stores.
As for Legend, he seems to be fully embracing the added responsibilities of raising another child. In fact, when asked if he and Teigen were done having kids, Legend replied, “I don’t think so! We’ll probably have more.”
Good for them! I just hope they are ready to move to zone defense, but something tells me this couple will be able to handle it just fine.