Martha Stewart is at it again, running her mouth and fanning the flames of her rivalry with Gwyneth Paltrow. Martha’s disdain for her competition (really any competition) is nothing new, and yet every time something like this happens, I have to ask myself why.
Why is this tolerated? What PR firm is representing her and why hasn’t this been addressed? But just like with children, when poor behavior is rewarded with results — you learn to repeat that behavior.
In the latest issue of Martha Stewart Living, her team pokes fun at Gwyneth’s recent “Conscious Uncoupling” with a series of Thanksgiving food pairings. But what might be dismissed as all in good fun looks a little uglier in light of Stewart’s recent comments regarding the actress. “She just needs to be quiet. She’s a movie star,” Stewart was quoted in an interview with Net-a-Porter‘s magazine. “If she were confident in her acting, she wouldn’t be trying to be Martha Stewart.”
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not an ardent Gwyneth supporter. I don’t know her, nor do I have feelings for her one way or the other. But what I do care about is the bullying. How can we speak out against bullying in schools, but ignore it in the realm of celebrity?
Her highly effective publicity stunt showed up in my Facebook feed five times alone yesterday. Five. But unfortunately for Martha, the writing is already on the wall. Celebrity lifestyle blogs are on the rise; she’s no longer the queen of the playground. Here are the ones I can name, just off the top of my head:
- GOOP, Gwyneth Paltrow
- Preserve, Blake Lively
- LaurenConrad.com, Lauren Conrad
- The Kind Life, Alicia Silverstone
- Draper James (launching in 2015), Reese Witherspoon
That’s not even taking into consideration the millions of non-celebrity lifestyle blogs that “compete” with Martha daily.
You know what? Part of me does sympathize with Martha. I look at Blake Lively’s new blog and part of me thinks — how do I compete with that?! As a regular blogger, doing it all on my own, how do I compete with this gorgeous celebrity who has a team of people helping her put out fabulous content? Now multiply that by like, I don’t know … a million, and that must be what Martha is feeling. Whenever someone feels backed into a corner, that’s when the claws come out.
But there has to be a better way. We, as women, need to stand up for one another, not bash each other. We need to celebrate our achievements, our differences, and our individuality.
Martha Stewart may have been the queen, she may have kicked off this Pinterest generation, but she needs to realize that as with any matriarchal position — there comes a line of succession. Instead of making a perfectly calligraphed list of celebrity enemies, she needs to start thinking about how to share the crown.
Isn’t it time to stop being catty and tearing each other down? Isn’t the Internet big enough for all of us?More On