Transformers star Megan Fox feels just as much mom guilt as the rest of us. She recently admitted that she feels conflicted about the time she spends away from her children.
28-year-old Megan Fox and Brian Austin Green have two children together — Noah (almost 2) and Bodhi (4 months). She has cut her movie-making job down to just one film per year and she still feels guilty.
I understand feeling conflicted. I have worked part-time on and off while raising my four kids. I haven’t worked full-time since they were born, but I still worry about my time away from them. Even though I find my part-time work fulfilling (we need the money and I’m still totally available to my kids) I struggle with it. Is there something inherent in motherhood that makes us feel guilty no matter what? Are we destined to feel inadequate?
Megan Fox said, “As a mom it’s hard because I don’t feel like I’m ever giving either one of them 100% of my attention or 100% of myself, so I carry a lot of guilt. Do they each understand how special they are and how much I love them? And are they understanding that they’re unique? It’s hard to make each one feel like an individual when you have to raise them together and manage them together all of the time.”
I want to make fun of Megan Fox for her first-world problems and her helicopter-mom anxiety over her precious little snowflakes who don’t get 100% of her attention … but I can’t! Because I know just how she feels. Well, maybe not exactly. I’m not a rich, beautiful, famous, actress. But she seems like she’s trying to be a good mom while balancing her family’s needs and her career. Like her, I want the best for my kids. I want them to have me — all of me — if that’s what they need.
But I’m not sure it is what they need. My mom has worked full-time all of my life. I think I had more respect and appreciation for my mom and her time because she had so little of it than my kids have for my time. My kids (and Megan Fox’s, for that matter) have the luxury of taking me and my time for granted. I’ve given them access to a seemingly limitless supply of attention. Is that good for them? Who knows.
Since having kids, Megan Fox claims that her heart is not in her work, but at home with her family. But she has to make one movie a year in order to invest in their future. She said, “I have to be able to pay their way through college and be able to provide for them. I’m looking for movies that will shoot in Los Angeles, for projects where I’m part of an ensemble so I can shoot in and out in 10-20 days. It’s all about trying to spend as little time away from my kids as possible.”
One wonders: What is Brian Austin Green doing with all his time and does he feel any guilt about it?
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