Nicole Kidman doesn’t think her daughters will go into show business. She told People magazine that Faith Margaret, 4, and Sunday Rose, 6, are not interested in becoming actors like her. “[Acting] was just my desire and my motivation, and I don’t see that in Sunday or Faith. They’re like, ‘Nope, we’re not interested.’”
For the time being, Kidman says that Sunday wants to be a vet and a party planner and … a stay-at-home mom! She explains, “She says she wants to be a stay-at-home mom and have eight children. I think that’s her way of saying to me, ‘Stay at home!’”
I think Kidman might be reading too much into her daughter’s wish to stay at home. Kidman herself struggled with the decision to keep working when she was pregnant with Sunday. She didn’t want to miss being a part of her children’s lives because of her demanding work schedule. Like all moms, Kidman had to figure out her own version of work/life balance. I can relate to Kidman because I’ve struggled with the same issue. When I had kids I decided to be a stay-at-home mom, but I revisit this decision often. Sometimes I wonder if I’m contributing enough to the world … to my family … to myself? Work/life balance looks different for every mom.
Kidman’s own mother gave up her job to raise her kids. She had some advice that Nicole took to heart, telling her, “You should still do something creative. You should still keep a finger in the pot. I just feel that’s your destiny. You shouldn’t give that up completely.” This made sense to Nicole.
It’s interesting to see that mothers and daughters are so similar across the board. Even someone as glamorous as Nicole Kidman struggles to “do it all” and even her daughters somehow manage to raise the hackles of her mama-guilt with their innocent remarks. Nicole shouldn’t feel too bad. I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for most of my kids’ lives and I still feel guilty! My youngest wishes I would volunteer to be the PTA president at her school or sign up to be the room mother in her classroom. She’s my fourth in the public school system, and all I can say is that the novelty of being the room mom wears off after about the first two. She’ll have to live with the store-bought treats I send from home for the Halloween party.
My 7-year-old actually sounds a lot like Sunday Rose, too. She is very focused on becoming a mother and staying home to take care of her children. (Although she would consider blogging from home for a little extra income.) I am proud that my daughter wants to emulate me in her decision to be a stay-at-home mom (for now, at least!). She wants to spend time with her kids, like we do. Even though she’s weirdly obsessed with babies at this stage in her life (her last series of Google searches included “mommy has a baby game” and “free game pregnant mommy with baby”), it is validating to know that she wants to be a little bit like me when she grows up.
But if she ends up growing out of this, that’s fine too. I hope both of my daughters have the luxury of choosing what they do — whether they decide to be stay-at-home moms or not.
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