Ryan Reynolds is on a promotional tear this week, and we are loving every second of it.
He stopped by Live! With Kelly and Michael and The Tonight Show on Monday, Sept. 21, and in the latest issue of GQ he is full of updates on his 9-month-old daughter with wife Blake Lively.
As fans of the couple know, Reynolds and Lively are notoriously private. They lead a quiet life in the suburbs of New York and have managed to keep photos of James from being released (except for the small snippets they release on social media).
In other words, they’ve seemed to seamlessly toe the line of Hollywood superstars and everyday parents — simultaneously accessible to the masses while maintaining a sense of normalcy.
But this week we’ve gotten more insight into their lives than ever before.
On Live! With Kelly and Michael, Reynolds revealed that James had her first fever, which threw him for a loop:
“I was told to check her temperature … through the rectum, which for me it was like … ‘Noooo, it can’t be. There’s a mouth! There’s an armpit. There’s gotta be something!”
Thankfully everything went well and Reynolds found the humor in it, saying one day when he’s walking her down the aisle, she’ll turn to him, “And she’ll go, ‘I know what you did.'”
Then later that night on The Tonight Show, the Mississippi Grind actor told Jimmy Fallon that his baby girl has started speaking (a milestone all parents revel in):
“She’s saying ‘mama,’ What my wife doesn’t realize is [the baby] calls me ‘Mama’ too. Seriously. I literally had to sit her down and tell her that penises don’t work that way. She understands … she gets it.”
Jokes aside, though, fatherhood hasn’t exactly been a breeze — and he’s lost some friends in the process.
In an interview with GQ, Reynolds revealed one of his former friends — someone he knew for 25 years — attempted to sell photos of his daughter to the tabloids:
“A guy that I’d known for my whole life, one of my closest friends growing up, he had been shopping pictures of my baby around. I kind of got in front of it, which is good. But it was a slightly dark period. A bad couple of weeks.”
Going on to say that the experience was “devastating” and “like a death,” he was forced to cut the friend off after a “pretty strongly worded conversation.” According to Reynolds, it was obvious the friend was guilty because he had only sent such personal photos to a small group of closest friends and family.
The sad story has made headlines, showing the reality behind just how hard celebrities have to work to keep their family lives private. But that’s not all Reynolds had to say about fatherhood. See more details from his revealing GQ interview below.
On being inundated with parenting advice:
“Picture advice being loaded into Super Soakers. You’re running around all dry and fancy-free — you’re gonna be, like, drenched. The one piece of advice I would say is: Don’t listen to any advice. Because there’s nothing you can do to prepare for it.”
On what he would (or wouldn’t) do for his daughter:
“I’ve learned that an inordinate amount of clichés are completely true. Like, there is this kid here that I would walk through fire for. Or maybe not fire. Like, a very hot pavement, I’d walk through. A shag rug.”
On having strong examples of fathers around him:
“I can’t say I had an easy relationship with my father, and I can’t say my brothers did either, but I look at each of my older brothers, and they’re all fathers, and they’re all great fathers. So I had some good examples. But I don’t think you really necessarily need examples. You just try to not be a complete pile of shit and just be there for them. You know, I like it: I mean that in the heaviest context. I genuinely like it. I like being a father. I like having a daughter. I would like to have more kids. You know, it seems to suit me pretty well.”
On the biggest surprise of fatherhood:
“I’m surprised how patient I am with it. I feel like I could sometimes have a bit of a short fuse, but there’s just been this weirdly endless supply of patience. I have no problem waking up five times in the middle of the night and changing diapers, and as exhausted as you get, I have this stupid grin on my face all the time. And that’s not because I have a nanny or something like that. It’s just us right now, and I love it.
On Hollywood parents:
“There are a million clichés that are just true. I get why parents have that sort of predisposition to talk about their child as if they’re the only people that have ever copulated and pumped out a kid. I understand that. I don’t fucking fall victim to it, because, especially celebrities, when they talk about their kid, they talk about their kid like they’re the Chosen One, or they’re the only people who have ever had a child.”