There Is Absolutely Nothing “Disgusting” About Kissing Your Child on the Lips

Living in a time of 24-hour news cycles and social media coverage means we end up casting endless judgments, debating a ridiculous amount of minutiae, and asking questions that don’t really need to be asked — and parenthood is especially rife with this nonsense.

As an online writer for nearly nine years, I had thought I’d seen it all. But I was floored when I saw article after article yesterday asking if it’s okay to kiss your children on the lips. What the ever-loving … HOW ARE WE EVEN ASKING THIS QUESTION?

The “debate” ignited after Victoria Beckham posted an adorable photo to Instagram in honor of her daughter Harper’s birthday. In it, she is seen kissing Harper on the lips in a pool, with the caption “kisses from mummy.”

Many of Beckham’s followers weighed in to say it’s strange and even “disgusting” to kiss your children on the lips. As of now, the post has over 590K “likes” and nearly 8,000 comments debating whether kissing your children on the lips is appropriate or not.

Here are just a few of her critics:

“Un, just to let u know it’s nice but Ur not supposed to kiss Ur children on the lips…I’m not trying to be rude but it’s true” — @beah_bri

“it’s gorgeous when your mom gives you kisses but not on your lips tho. I see that I’m not the only one who doesn’t get it…my mom gives me kisses but on my forehead which I find more valuable but it’s my right to find this disgusting. Have a lovely day.” — @I_2000_

“it’s definitely the head tilt. Makes it look like a romantic move kiss.” — @Mrsiunsetlove

Is this what we have come to? This is where we are as a society? Debating whether parents should kiss their children on the lips? I, for one, can think of nothing more appropriate than lip smooches with my children and anyone who has an issue with that is clearly sexualizing the act in much the same way as those who oppose public breastfeeding sexualize breasts.

Yet here I am, reading articles and watching news segments questioning the behavior. The BBC went so far as to consult “social etiquette expert” Liz Brewer, who had this to say:

“Normally with a member of your family you don’t kiss on the lips unless it’s your husband. I would be uncomfortable doing that and I think most people would be. If she feels it’s appropriate, so be it. I wouldn’t say it sets a particularly good example.”

I care not for your “expertise” on social etiquette, Ms. Brewer. And I especially don’t care for your generalization that “most people would be” uncomfortable kissing their children on the lips.

There is something terribly wrong with a society that questions something so natural between a parent and child. I’m shocked by all these weak-willed articles along the lines of, Is kissing your child on the lips OK? Of course showing your child love is OK! Why are intelligent news outlets even posing the question?

Image Source: Monica Bielanko
Image Source: Monica Bielanko

The love I feel for my children far exceeds the love I have felt for anyone in my life and a loving kiss on their sweet lips is a beautiful way to convey that emotion to them. I probably kiss each of my children on the lips at least twice a day — once when I’m dropping them off at daycare and again as I’m tucking them into bed. And sometimes I get really crazy and randomly demand one of my children come up and give me a smooch on the lips when they’re being extra cute.

Ironically, many historians believe kissing on the lips is a learned behavior that evolved from “kiss feeding,” the process where mothers in some cultures feed their babies by passing chewed-up food into their mouths. Obviously, kissing has evolved in different cultures to mean different things but I find it interesting that the hotly debated act of kissing children on the lips may have actually evolved from the natural parental act of a mother feeding her children.

I feel deeply saddened to live in a society that is so puritanically jacked that it sexualizes circumstances that have absolutely nothing to do with sex. Shame on everyone. Truly. If you prefer not to kiss on the lips, that’s one thing, but to view it as a disgusting act only demonstrates that your sexual barometer is totally broken and you are the one with the problem.

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