So much content on social media seems to be people who are richer/happier/more successful than us. Yes, Kim Kardashian has been guilty of oversharing from time to time, but I appreciate it when celebrities share their heart’s desire and are open about parenting concerns. Kim recently told E! that it’s been more challenging to get pregnant the second time around. It’s so important for parents to share their challenges. I think that’s one of the best things we can use the Internet for. Otherwise parenting can feel lonely.
When I had a miscarriage (several years ago, before my first son was born) I knew women who had experienced miscarriages, but there wasn’t really a forum like we have online today (go team mommy bloggers!) to read about the personal struggles other women and parents were having. I also knew miscarriages were very common, but my experience felt singular and it was sad and difficult. I think the more we share our hardship, the more we can support each other and, while parenting will still be hard sometimes, at least we know that we are not the only ones going through something. When I was going through my miscarriage, the whole burden of supporting me fell on my husband. It was a very emotional loss for both of us that we hadn’t expected. Reading about the experiences of other parents might have helped. After my miscarriage, it took a couple of years to conceive. It was concerning. I worried. It’s nice to hear from other women going through the same thing. Somehow, it lessons the burden and makes you feel more normal to hear someone else’s story.
It’s so easy to use the Internet to force our opinions on each other or tear down other parents — especially celebrities. The anonymity of it can be dangerous. People say things online and in the comment sections of articles that they would never say to someone face to face. But we don’t have to give in to those destructive tendencies. I hope more people will be honest and open about their own parenting struggles so that we can all support each other and inform one another about the not-so-fun parts of parenting, such as struggling to conceive. It’s difficult and feels vulnerable, but sharing our concerns helps others, as Jaime King did when she shared her own struggle to conceive.
When celebrities are open about their struggles it makes them seem more human and real to us. I wouldn’t call myself a huge Kim Kardashian fan, but knowing that she is worried about having another baby makes me sympathize with her. North West is only 19 months old, so the odds are good that in time, Kim and Kanye will conceive that little brother or sister they are waiting for. I hope they do. And I hope we can root for each other and support each other through the dips and plateaus of parenting.More On