Why Does Michelle Obama Describe Herself as a “Single Mother”?Sarah Bernard
Michelle Obama recently described herself as a “single mom” and as she explains in the current issue of Parade magazine, the statement was not a literal one — obviously — but rather an acknowledgment of the fact that she is the parent who deals with all of the logistics.
Isn’t that always the case? One person in the relationship, whether they like it or not, takes the lead in that regard. And I’m guessing that most of the time, though they love their kids madly, they don’t like it — or rather, how unbalanced the responsibilities feel.
Malia and Sasha’s dad clearly has a great reason for not always being available to monitor schedules and ferry his daughters to activities. But I so appreciate the fact that Michelle acknowledges that, and says, it’s not easy.
“When you have a husband or a partner who’s either traveling for work or has huge responsibility, and I give my husband credit — he knows who their friends are, he knows what their schedule is. But he’s not making the calls to the dance studio to figure out what classes they’re taking next year,” she says, “I think it’s important for both parents to shoulder that [responsibility].”
It’s easy to forget that even though this is arguably the most famous family on the planet, they are just that: a family. Their two daughters need to do homework and to be told how much TV they can watch. And as parents, they need to divvy up the responsibility and possibly annoy each other by not going for a 50/50 split — or anywhere close.
Not to say that Michelle has a ton of free time, by the way. Her “Let’s Move” campaign to combat childhood obesity has certainly been front and center on her schedule these days. And she takes the lessons to heart especially as she contemplates hitting the half century mark in January. “I am constantly thinking about my own health and making sure that I’m eating right and getting exercise and watching the aches and pains,” she says, “I want to be this really fly, 80-, 90- year old.”
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