6 Things Not to Say to a Shy Kid (And His Mom!)

I was a shy kid.

I was a shy kid who preferred solitude to the company of my peers, who dreaded meeting new people and forced social interactions. But what I dislike most of all was when adults focused on my shyness and treated it like a disease or worse, something that I could turn on and off.

That’s one of the reasons I loved Lori’s post about introverts and Devan’s 7 Rules to Follow When Raising an Introverted Child. I love the reminders that there is nothing intrinsically better about a child being an extrovert, that being an introvert is not a character flaw.

Click through for 6 things never to say to a shy kid (or his parents!)



  • Are you shy? 1 of 6
    Are you shy?
    I have no idea why people ask this inane question, but the urge to respond "what do you think, Einstein?!" can be especially hard to suppress.
    Photo Credit: MorgueFile
  • Cat got your tongue? 2 of 6
    Cat got your tongue?
    I'd like to meet the genius who first came up with this. Wouldn't it be great if the kid said "YES! Thank goodness someone finally figured it out. The cat did get my tongue. I think he buried it somewhere near the litter box. Help me look?"
    Photo Credit: MorgueFile
  • Smile! 3 of 6
    "Why, are you taking a photograph? In that case, let me comb my hair and put on something a bit more flattering."
    Photo Credit: MorgueFile
  • Do you have a girlfriend? 4 of 6
    Do you have a girlfriend?
    "No offense lady, but that's kind of personal, and besides, you're so not my type."
    Photo Credit: MorgueFile
  • Oh, you have nothing to be shy about! 5 of 6
    Oh, you have nothing to be shy about!
    I'm not sure what is more bizarre about this one-- the fact that people should be shy about some things and not others or the fact that a practical stranger would have such insight into a child.
    Photo Credit: MorgueFile
  • It’s the quiet ones you have to watch out for 6 of 6
    It's the quiet ones you have to watch out for
    Why, because shy kids grow up so enraged about tongue theft by cat that they become psychotic? Wouldn't it be great if people realized that shyness was not a personality flaw that they need to change?
    Photo Credit: MorgueFile

Photo source: MorgueFile

For more of Marinka, visit her personal blog Motherhood in NYC and The Mouthy Housewives, where she doles out advice as though it were candy. Mmm … candy. Also, follow her on Twitter, where she never refers to herself in the third person, but does have a potty mouth. Sorry!

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