7 Things I Refuse to Feel Guilty About as a Parent

I don’t know what it is that happens when we become responsible for another life that makes us turn on ourselves. With parenting, there really is no “right” and “wrong” way when the motives are pure and we’re doing our best. There is no “one-all” parenting. No guidebook that tells us exactly what to do when this or that happens and everyone seems to have an opinion.

I hear a lot about mom guilt — things we feel guilty for when it comes to parenting and our kids. There is so much of it around — we bring it upon ourselves and well, people can be quite judgmental when it comes to criticizing other’s parenting.

There are many things that, looking back, I may have done differently  I do know I did the best I could during that time and refuse to feel guilty. There are also everyday things that some people may have some judgey opinions on, but I refuse to feel guilty about them.

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    7 Things I Refuse to Feel Guilty About
    There is enough things I second guess myself over, but these, I refuse to feel guilty about.
  • Not Spending Hours on Homework 2 of 8
    Not Spending Hours on Homework
    I spend about 20 minutes just before bed reading 2 books to my kids, on in English and one in French. That's really the extent of my homework time. They're only in kindergarten and grade 1, so there's not a lot, but they're drained when they get home and I don't want them to hate it. We do more on the weekends, but make a game out of it vs just sitting down and doing it.
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  • Asking My Kids to Play Independently 3 of 8
    Asking My Kids to Play Independently
    I am not one of the parents who is actively playing with their kids at all times during the day. I don't think that's a bad thing either, and I won't feel guilty about it. Their imagination soars when they're asked to play on their own.
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  • Watching TV 4 of 8
    Watching TV
    I know, we should limit our kids tv time, but I won't feel bad about putting in a movie during crazy dinner making time or on a lazy weekend. It won't hurt them.
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  • My Loud Kids 5 of 8
    My Loud Kids
    My kids make a lot of noise. Happy noise, sad noise, mad noise and fighting noise. It comes with parenting and I won't feel guilty if it's bothering you. They're respectful with their volume in places it counts.
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  • Not Sharing My Dinner 6 of 8
    Not Sharing My Dinner
    My kids used to only like to eat off my plate and I would oblige. I've since stopped because -- well, i wasn't eating enough. I won't feel guilty for not sharing and for taking the time to take care of me.
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  • Working 7 of 8
    I was a stay-at-home mom for 6 years while my kids were young and over the past 18 months, I have started working -- at home. I don't feel guilty about taking time for me professionally, for asking my husband to take a better half of the household responsibilities and I don't feel guilty working while my kids are home with me.
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  • Giving My Kids Treats 8 of 8
    Giving My Kids Treats
    My kids have enough food-restrictions for allergies, intolerances and celiac disease so they get a good share of treats. My kid's lunchboxes are not packed with only healthy things. It's balanced with good and treat and I won't feel bad about that.
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