About that Vogue Article – Would You Put Your 7-Year Old on Diet?Stacie Haight Connerty
My daughter is about average for height and weight for her age according to her pediatrician. She is not skinny. She is not fat.
What bothers me is that she has already asked me several times if she is fat. SHE IS SEVEN. She shouldn’t have to worry about that. That should not even be something on her mind.
The woman, whose 7-year-old daughter was considered obese at 93 pounds, not only put her daughter on a yearlong diet but also subsequently both deprived and rewarded her in the strangest ways (letting her have cupcakes at one birthday party while telling her not to ‘eat that crap’ at another). I mean, you really have to read the article to grasp the full effect of what this child went through.
To me, the worst part was the quote by the child at the end of the article:
For Bea, the achievement is bittersweet. When I ask her if she likes how she looks now, if she’s proud of what she’s accomplished, she says yes…Even so, the person she used to be still weighs on her. Tears of pain fill her eyes as she reflects on her yearlong journey. “That’s still me,” she says of her former self. “I’m not a different person just because I lost sixteen pounds.” I protest that, indeed, she is different. At this moment, that fat girl is a thing of the past. A tear rolls down her beautiful cheek, past the glued-in feather. “Just because it’s in the past,” she says, “doesn’t mean it didn’t happen.”
If this is not an eating disorder in the making, I don’t know what is.
I don’t want my daughter to even have to worry about weight and dieting. So what I do is teach her healthy habits. I make certain that she eats good food with the occasional treat. She gets plenty of exercise and understands the importance of drinking plenty of water. She knows what healthy habits are.
WOULD YOU PUT YOUR CHILD ON A DIET?
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