Are You a Cougar Mom? How the Definition is Changing for the BetterPilar Clark
Considering I’m only 30 (and will be for the foreseeable future, thanks for asking), and my husband is four years older than I am, I’m pretty sure I don’t qualify.
I’m hardly on the prowl. And my clothes are never slit up to here or cut down to there.
The thing is, it wasn’t said as a dig. It was uttered with a little bit of admiration.
And yes, I suppose it might have stemmed from my newfound, totally geeky love for a sparklevamp who’s all freakishly large eyebrows and hangs out with a furry manchild frienemy, but still. Has the definition of “cougar” evolved from laughably scary to strong and sexy?
I guess it depends on how you look at it.
In the wild, Cougars are pretty badass beasts. They’re fierce and elegant and take whatever they want, when they want.
In the wilds of society, cougars have always represented older women who appeal to much younger men with their raw, liberated sexuality a la Samantha Jones of Sex and City fame.
But then there was Keanu Reeves and Diane Keaton, who made their May/December relationship work in an adorably awkward way in Something’s Gotta Give; and don’t forget Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart, who quietly make it work in real life.
Each of those women, both fictional and real, is her own woman – an independent businesswoman, a playwright, an actress – reshaping societal boundaries to fit them instead of the other way around.
So I guess the definition has changed. And for the better.
Because if it now includes proud, foxy, confident moms over 30 who know what they want from all aspects of their lives regardless of what society says they should have, then I can definitely get on board. Rawr.
Photo credits: HBO