Just Because I'm a Mom, Doesn't Mean I Always Want to Talk About My Kid.Lisa Quinones-Fontanez
I love my kid. I do. And I love talking (and writing) about him and his antics. But just because I’m a mom doesn’t mean I have to spend every second of my life talking about my son Norrin.
I know a mom that ever since giving birth, her kids are all she can talk about. And the only time she asks about Norrin is so that she can segway back to talking about hers. It’s gotten to the point where I try to avoid having any kind of conversation with this woman. And if she asks about Norrin, I am very brief. I am just not that interested in talking about kids – hers or mine – all the time. I don’t want to talk about kid books or movies or clothes. And no, I don’t want to see all 150 pictures of your kids on vacation either.
I feel awful admitting this… but recently I hid a few Facebook friends because every single one of their updates had to do with their kids. Every. Single. One. What they ate. Where they went. What they said. When they pooped. I mean, I know I blog about my kid and I love posting pictures of him. But I have my limits. And do I really need to be updated every time your kid poops?
Yesterday I met my best friend after work for a quick drink before heading home. She has twins. We talked briefly about our kids, shared our funny kid moments of the week and then we moved on. We spent the rest of our time talking about other things. And it felt wonderful.
I Talk About My Kid When I Want To… 1 of 7
Not because I have to. Click through to see some of the things we can chat about!
Social Media 2 of 7
As a blogger, I love all things social media. It's always fun meeting people who tweet and blog. And I enjoy talking to folks about ideas, tips or ways to work together.
Food 3 of 7
We got out to eat a lot. Living in New York City, there is no shortage of great places to get our grub on. But I always like hearing where people have been and what they like. And I'm always ready to debate on who has the best cheeseburger in town.
Movies 4 of 7
I'll be honest, having a kid with special needs and limited child care—we don't get to the movies often. If there's something I really want to see, I'll go to the movies by myself. (Luckily I have a movie theatre across the street.) But I love movies. (Especially old black and white movies. I love old Hollywood history.) We have a pretty extensive DVD collection and we spend many Saturday nights on the sofa watching movies. I could talk about movies for hours. And if it's a movie I really love, I could recite lines of dialogue.
Fashion 5 of 7
I love bags, shoes, scarves and jewelry. Why? Because they always fit—no matter what!
Make Up 6 of 7
Another thing that always fits: makeup. I love lipstick and glosses. What do you think of these vivid colors? I'm thinking I may need the Fuchsia before summer is over...
Music 7 of 7
I can't remember the last time I turned on the radio, but I rely on my friends to keep me in the know about the latest songs and artists. But if you want to talk about old 80s, 90s music, Cher, Barbara Streisand or Broadway show tunes... I'm your girl.
I’m not completely superficial, I can talk politics and current events too (depending on who I’m with).
I think it’s important for women to remember that they are more than someone’s mother. I am an individual and I have interests other than my child. And that’s okay.
What do you love to talk about other than your kid?
Read more of Lisa’s writing at AutismWonderland.