My Son has Autism. Please, There’s No Need to Say “I’m Sorry.”Lisa Quinones-Fontanez
Raising a son with autism is not easy. It’s probably the hardest thing I’ve ever faced. But the really hard stuff has nothing to do with autism, it’s everything else that comes with it. Dealing with the Department of Education. Navigating insurance companies. Drowning in never ending paperwork. There’s no one road map to follow. It takes many maps and many roads to figure out what works. There are moments, when it hurts. But no matter what we feel, no matter how difficult things can get, there is still no need to be or feel sorry for us.
Hearing, “I’m sorry,” when I tell people that Norrin has autism has been something I’ve gotten used to. And I respond, “Don’t be. My son is fine.” I know people often don’t know what to say and I certainly don’t expect people to give me a high five. But there’s no need to say that you’re sorry and while I could give you a thousand reasons why you don’t need to be, I’m giving you our top five.
Our son has autism. There is no need to be sorry. 1 of 6Click through to see the reasons why.
He’s Happy! 2 of 6Look at this smile. Norrin is a happy little boy. He wakes up smiling - sure sometimes it's 3 in the morning - but his happiness is the only thing that matters to us.
I’m not sorry. 3 of 6Norrin is the only child I have. And I feel so lucky to have him in my life. Autism is just a part of who he is - it does not define him.
My son has a great dad. 4 of 6It's hard parenting a special needs child. It's hard for many men to accept. Norrin has a great relationship with his dad. And I'm grateful, I have a husband like Joseph. He's a dedicated father.
We have fun together. 5 of 6I never thought I would have this much fun being a mom. Norrin is a pretty cool kid with a great sense of humor . We always have a good time together.
He’s changed the way I see the world. 6 of 6Having a child with autism, I've really had to work a little bit harder to connect with him. I've had to work a little harder to see things from his perspective. I've learned so much from him in these last few years. He taught me to truly appreciate the things in life that really matter.
If your child has autism, how do you respond – when people say they’re sorry?
Read more of Lisa’s writing at AutismWonderland.