attempt to work from home with the kids while my husband works his 9-5. Most days are OK, but every so often there are those really tough parenting days that fry my brain and zap my every last will to live.
I have this adorable habit of allowing my frustration simmer on low until it comes to a rolling boil. I then release tension by tossing out a good parenting jab at my poor, unsuspecting husband. I know it’s not mature. I know it’s not fair. I also know it’s not good for our marriage and yet, I do it anyway. Thirteen years of marriage and I’m still jabbing.
I know I’m not the only jabber out there; we all do it at some point. Whether under our breath or right out in the open, we moms say these things almost begging for a fight.
1. “You just don’t get it!”
Poor Dads. They really get the poo slung at ’em sometimes (and not just by the kids). Dads know how hard we work even if it doesn’t feel like it sometimes.
2. “At least you get to pee in peace!”
Kids don’t storm the bathroom with Dad the way they do with Mom. Do our kids think we’re relaxing or planning to stay awhile because we pee seated?
3. “I do everything around here!”
I know it sure feels that way but let me ask you this: Are you the one unclogging the garbage disposal or mowing the lawn? If you answered yes then you’re allowed to use this phrase forever and ever.
4. “You’re never here!”
He’s probably never there because he’s busy providing for his family. Give Dad a break.
5. “They’re your kids too!”
Tell him something he doesn’t already know. He was there when his kids were made and there when his kids were born. He also spends the majority of his day worrying about paying for their college education.
6. “Watching your own kids isn’t babysitting!”
Dads might call their opportunity to watch the kids unsupervised “babysitting”. I know it totally drives us batty but they don’t mean it the way it sounds (I swear).
7. “Stop! You’re doing it wrong!”
Dads are damned if they do and damned if they don’t. So what if he’s doing wrong? At least he’s doing it.
8. “Why do I always have to ask for your help?”
Because you do. The end.
9. “I’m not your mother!”
Your husband may need some caring for but guess what? He’s a happier and better man because of you.
10. “I can’t take it anymore!”
Dads don’t know what to do with this information. Do they hug you? Run and hide? Fart to ease the tension? Deep breath. Calm down. Be specific. (And Dads, please don’t fart.)
You know as well as I that your kids have a damn great dad. You also know how hard you’re both working to raise happy, confident children. Since the blessings far outweigh the crap, let’s say we focus on the good in each other and burn off the frustration in more productive ways. Easier said than done? You betcha my friends.
Have you ever caught yourself uttering these phrases?