2 Tips to Help Your Relationship Survive Political DifferencesKrishann Briscoe
There are many things my husband and I disagree on, but thankfully politics isn’t one of them. Although our reasons for voting may differ, as well as our views on what issues are the most important, we share the same political background.
This similarity between us makes for enlightening and affirming political conversations as opposed to heated debates filled with eye rolls. If there is frustration about an issue, that level of frustration is often shared between the two of us as we realize the impact this election’s outcome will have on our family. At the end of the day our core beliefs and values mirror one another, but this isn’t the case for all couples.
I imagine the tension may be rising as we get closer to voting day for those couples who don’t see eye to eye when it comes to this year’s election. Politics is already considered such a heated and taboo subject. With people losing friends both on Facebook and in real life for expressing their opinions, and becoming emotionally charged about various issues our nation is facing, this election year could teach you a thing or two about relationships, as well as yourself.
Many of us experience difficulty when it comes to navigating the challenges that arise out of the differences that we have with others, but that doesn’t mean harmony can’t exist where there is a difference of opinion.
In an effort to help you and your significant other exit the voting booth the same way you entered it — together I’m sharing one tip via Shine and that can help those who are in a relationship with their political opposite as well as one tip my husband has taught me when it comes to our own disagreements. I will be honest and say that sometimes I struggle implementing his tip but that is because despite it being a great one, I am a creature of habit and therefore have to make an extra effort to remember to use it.
And for those of you who do share the same political beliefs as your spouse, these tips can still be helpful to you. Really, they are tips that can help those that are dating, married or even related to someone who doesn’t take the same political stance they do.
No need to stay away from your parents’ house until the election is over. Continue reading for two tips to help those in a relationship with a member of the opposite party and a how-to video via Howcast.
1. Avoid Political Discussion
If you’re anything like me you are a talker. Your solution to disagreements is to talk about it. Next thing you know, you find yourself asking why you even brought it up or getting frustrated because you don’t feel heard or understood.
Getting into a discussion with someone of a different political party is often going to result in a debate and if you are anything like some politicians not everyone debates nicely; not to mention you don’t have a moderator to help keep things from escalating.
The solution: don’t discuss politics. Talk about something else instead. You know you don’t see eye to eye so the next time politics comes up, change the subject.
2. Stop Trying to Convince Them
Whenever my husband and I disagree on something I go on and on telling my husband why I feel the way I do. Often he will stop me in my tracks and say to me, “You’re trying to convince me to feel the way you do.” And he’s right. Why else would I keep telling him my point of view and all the reasons why it’s the right point of view when he’s already told me how he feels?
Now is not the time to try and convince your significant other to change his or her political views and adopt your stance. Chances are he or she is just as passionate about what he/she believes as you are. Not sure what to do? This might be an appropriate time to simply agree to disagree.
And now a video on “How to Date a Member of the Opposite Party”:
For additional tips on relationships and politics check out Shine’s article and visit Howcast for their steps from the video. Any additional tips you care to share? Would you date or marry someone who doesn’t share your same political views?
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Video Source: Howcast
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