5 Ways to Have Better Sex in the New YearCarolyn Castiglia
Is your sex life getting stale? Have you always wished you could be more adventurous in the bedroom but don’t know where to begin? Here are 5 fairly simple things you can do that will make a huge difference for you in the sack:
1. Have sex with some light in the room.
If you’re used to only having sex in the dark, start with some candles, say the experts at YourTango. From there, have daylight sex with your eyes open. Men are visual creatures (we know this) and they love to look at a woman’s body while they’re having sex. Women, learn to delight in your visual sense, too! Focus on his face or his chest if that’s what makes you feel comfortable to begin with — eventually you might even like the way you look naked!
2. Ask for what you want and be clear about what you don’t like.
Women, men love to hear you talk to them in bed. You have no reason to feel shy or awkward about giving them feedback. You’ll likely feel more comfortable with being critical when necessary if you learn to also give him compliments when he hits the right spot. Men seem to have less of a problem being direct about what works, but if you are being mum, gentlemen, don’t be.
3. Learn how to take a compliment.
The experts at YourTango say, “Your guy enjoys telling you he’s attracted to you. As a bonus, it can make you feel pretty, and help keep the pilot light of your sex life shimmering. But when you respond with “Ugh, look at my belly,” or “With this hair? No way,” it takes all the fun away.” That goes for men, too!
4. Don’t just focus on intercourse.
There are lots of ways to have sex! Remember the joys of outercourse? Shake up your routine!
5. Be responsible about birth control and protection from STDs.
You can relax and enjoy when you know you’re protected from disease and if you’re trying to get pregnant or not. If you’re not trying to get pregnant, experts say, “You don’t walk into a hair salon and say “I’ll leave it to Jose — if he perms and dyes my hair red that’s okay, and if he doesn’t, that’s okay too.” So don’t use that approach to pregnancy. If you don’t want it tonight, use a scientifically reliable form of contraception.”
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