Is Dating Dead? Seeking AdviceCarolyn Castiglia
Earlier this month, Katie JM Baker at Jezebel analyzed two pieces from major newspapers – The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal – and came to the conclusion that the papers think dating is over and women have to lie to potential suitors in order to end up married. Katie doesn’t necessarily agree with that depressing conclusion, but its something any straight woman out there dating probably feels is true to some extent.
It seems impossible to make online dating work (though I knew a few people who swear by it!) and when you do “connect” with someone there after presenting an impossibly perfectly imperfect version of yourself, the dates are often so loosely planned they never happen! “We should get together sometime.” 4 months later …
The Times says, “Dinner at a romantic new bistro? Forget it. Women in their 20s these days are lucky to get a last-minute text to tag along.” Sure, women in their 20s may have been raised in “hookup culture” as the Times calls it, so they may be more used to dealing with a loosely planned, disappointing rendezvous, but that doesn’t mean they like it. And those of us older than 30 don’t know what to expect from dating. Especially those of us who married in our early twenties and never really learned how to date to begin with! (Ahem.) We are fluent in html, but we also remember life before AOL, so, like, text me but not too often and let’s actually be together one-on-one having a conversation face-to-face if we’re gonna like possibly be BF & GF, right?
So I want to know, really, like so many of us do once and for all, how do you meet a nice person to be in a romantic relationship with? If online dating is the pits, you could try volunteering, you could try being set up by a friend or you can leave it up to chance. But really, who out there has good advice about how and where to meet someone? Share your story with me in the comments (using Babble comments or Facebook) and I’ll share your advice in another post.
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