Open Letter to Beyonce and Jay-Z from NICU MomCarolyn Castiglia
Jen at People I Want to Punch in the Throat has written an Open Letter to Beyonce & Jay-Z in response to allegations that their security prevented parents from seeing their children in the NICU. The letter is funny and bitter and most importantly poignant because Jen was a NICU mom herself 7 years ago, so she’s taking Beyonce’s star treatment personally. She writes, “As a former NICU parent I can tell you how easy it is to flip flop back and forth between the excitement of having a new baby and the heart-stopping fear that your child is not well.” Then she lambasts Beyonce and Jay-Z for being “assholes” about their security needs.
I’d love to quote the whole letter, but I’ll just give you the best parts. You can go read the whole thing in a sec. There’s this:
When you’re in the NICU, you get 2 maybe 3 visitors allowed at a time. Each visitor must scrub in like a surgeon before they’re allowed in the nursery. Some visitors are barred at the door if they show any sign of a sniffle or a cough – that is certain death for many of the babies in the NICU. Some babies are so sick they can’t be handled, so their parents just gaze at them and whisper words of encouragement like, “C’mon buddy, you need to fight now. You need to be strong, because Daddy and I love you so much and we need you to be with us.”
Those are the kinds of memories these new parents were making while you were hosting a catered lunch.
When you’re in the NICU, you need support and lots of it. You need your family and your friends to rally around you and keep you going. Some parents are in the hospital with their babies for days, weeks, months and all they live for are the visits that continue to sustain them.
Imagine the distress of these parents – the ones you didn’t care about – to find that their loved ones had been relocated or stopped from visiting. Not for a cold, but because someone in your entourage needed to go out for a smoke or whatever was so important to shut down the hallway.
But this is my favorite chunk:
We all want to protect our children, but covering up security cameras sounds like a way to protect your wallet more than your child. It makes no sense to me that you’re so worried some crazy person is going to get you that you install bullet proof windows and doors, but then you cover the security cameras? If, for some reason (God forbid), someone did get in, you’d need those cameras to help catch that person.
Exactly. Go read the whole post now. We’ll let you know what happens next!