After the kids were in bed last night, I flopped down on the couch and started flipping through TV channels. Completely exhausted after a long week, I was looking for a little brain candy. I landed on Say Yes to the Dress a guilty pleasure for me. I don’t know what it is about the show the perfect white gowns, the push and pull of all the personalities in the bride’s entourage, or the show’s salespeople moving in for the kill but I can’t help but watch.
Last night, I randomly caught an episode with Syndal Gordon, fiancé of former Yankee pitcher Chad Gaudin, who brought an entourage of Yankee wives with her to pick out her wedding dress. They popped open a bottle of bubbly in the bathroom of Kleinfeld’s (no champagne near the dresses!) and got to work finding the perfect dress for Syndal.
Syndal struck me as a really sweet girl. And she seemed pretty sure of what she wanted. She said that her wedding was going to have a “bling” theme, and she didn’t care if people thought it was tacky, because she thought it was fun. More power to you, Syndal, I thought to myself. But, as the episode wore on, I kept thinking: “Syndal! No!” as the obviously well-meaning Yankee wives talked her into buying a dress that she didn’t seem entirely sure she wanted. Maybe it was just me, but she seemed hesitant, and in the end she said that the ladies in her entourage must know what they’re talking about, so she went along with their decision. I don’t know, maybe she really did love the dress?
This morning, I woke up to find the rest of the world Googling Syndal Gordon. It caught my interest since I’d just seen this show, so I clicked around and discovered that she loves kids and hopes to be a teacher.
As she sets out to become a wife, a mother, and a teacher, I hope she’ll teach those kids in her future classroom about the importance of being true to yourself. Sure—listen to everyone’s thoughts and opinions, mull them over, weigh the pros and cons, take people’s ideas to heart, even—but, in the end, make your own decision. Do what you think is right, not matter how loud the chorus of opinions might be. Whether that’s when you’re choosing the person you’re going to marry, when you’re choosing your wedding dress, your career path, or even just what to wear to school that day. Because if you can’t be true to yourself, what hope is there for happily ever after?