Back when my husband and I were dating, there came a point when we started to talk about matrimonial bliss. “If you ask me to marry you,” I remember clearly telling him, “then be prepared for the ‘death do us part’ portion of those future vows, because I have no plans to divorce.” Call me old-fashioned, but I truly wanted the kind of marriage that lasts decades and well into the sunset years.
So when I heard about Clarence Purvis, a 93-year-old widower from Glennville, Georgia, I couldn’t help but be in awe of his story. You see, he loved his late wife Carolyn so much, that he’s now famous in his hometown for doing everything he can to keep her memory alive. Even if it means going out to lunch every day, just as they used to, with a framed picture of his beloved wife by his side.
The couple, who reportedly met in 1948 and were married until Carolyn’s death in 2013, were smitten with each other for more than six decades. And it clearly shows, in everything Purvis has to say about her.
“Ain’t nobody loved one another more than me and my wife loved one another,” Purvis recently told WOTC. “I wanted what she wanted and she wanted what I wanted.”
(How sweet is that?)
Their secret to marriage, it seems, was pretty simple:
“Eat lunch, come back, watch television, go to bed, love one another,” Purvis shared. “What more you want?”
Every day for the last four years, Purvis has kept his standing lunch date with his wife at Smith’s Diner — their favorite. And perhaps even more incredible is the fact that he reportedly visits her grave 125 times a month. (While that may sound a bit much at first read, the couple had been married for 63 years, and honest to St. Pete, romance like that just doesn’t exist anymore.)
When asked about his regular graveside visits and daily lunch dates with his late wife, Purvis told WTOC, “I love her that much. And miss her that much. And think she would with me.”
With divorce rates currently sitting between 40 and 50 percent, love stories like the one between Clarence Purvis and his lovely wife Carolyn stand out as shining examples of what long-term devotion and love truly look like. I don’t know about you, but I sure hope that when I’m 93 (if I make it to that age), my husband and I will not only still be married to each other, but also still have heart bubbles bursting in our eyes when we look at each other.
As for moving on, it sounds like Clarence just isn’t ready.
“They said if I get me a girlfriend things will be better,” he told WOTC. “I could ask her, could I get me a girlfriend? You know what she’d say? If you want to. That’s how we operated.”
Isn’t that the cutest damn thing you ever read?! (Ack! I love this man!)