I don’t begrudge the women their lawsuit over the sperm mistake, although I do question how they’ll explain to their daughter why they sued over the circumstances of her birth. I’m trying to walk in their shoes, but all I keep thinking is that if I have a two-year-old daughter whom I love and adore — as the women claim to do — there is absolutely no way I’m filing a lawsuit expressing my great distress over the “wrongfulness” of her birth. If anything, I’m praising the great creator that he/she/whomever brought that special being into my life. Thank heavens for that switch-up or else I wouldn’t have my sweet baby, is what I’d be saying.
I certainly wouldn’t be lamenting her skin color, hair color, eye color, or any other thing she was born with. Sure, the women paid a lot of money for something and ended up getting something else. But it’s a baby who is part of you who is now a toddler who you claim to love with all your heart. So, yes, draw attention to the mix-up so the negligent clinic gets its act together but is all the race stuff in the lawsuit really necessary? Would they have still filed a lawsuit over the mix-up if it had occurred with another white donor?
Something else that really bothers me? The women acknowledge that their town is racist. So had their daughter been born with the “correct” donor sperm, and been born white, they would have had no problem raising her in a racist environment? Learning that behavior? Racism is only a problem when you or your child is the target? You’re a gay couple, for crying out loud! Are you not familiar with bigotry? That said, Jennifer Cramblett claims she wants to use the money she’s seeking to move to a location that would be a better environment for her daughter. If that’s the case, I’m all for the malpractice lawsuit (leave the race issue out of it) and use the money to move to a more diverse community where both lesbians and black children are welcome.
What do you think? Is the lawsuit warranted? Do the moms have a point or is what they’re doing ultimately going to harm their child?