“Lesbian Mom Loses Her Cool Coming Out During #BackToSchool” originally appeared on The Next Family, and was reprinted with permission.
There’s a lot to be stressed about during back-to-school season — supplies, clothes shopping, meeting new teachers, and signing up for the PTA. However, for LGBT parents they have to add another stress to their list of back-to-school worries: coming out.
See with every new school year comes new teachers, new classmates, and new parents. It’s not always easy explaining to other parents that you’re a two-dad family or a single lesbian mom, and sometimes it can get downright frustrating, as The Next Family shows in their most recent YouTube video, “Back to School (LGBT Parents Spoof).”
In the video, Brandy Black, editor-in-chief of The Next Family, shows how many parents in LGBT households have to come out to principals, PTA members, teachers, and even classmates’ parents. Many assume, in the video, that Brandy is married to a man, and she has to constantly refute these assumptions and explain that she’s part of a two-mom family. Like any parent, the stress of the back-to-school season and explaining her family to others gets the best of Black.
Though coming out during back-to-school season to your children’s school community might seem unnecessary, it can actually be quite helpful to your children’s educational experience as Brandy Black and Susan Howard discussed in a previous video, “Back to School: How to Talk to Teachers About Your Family.”
As Howard notes, “If suddenly it’s Mother’s Day and you [are] two dads, you’re jacked.” She explains that it’s important to speak with teachers about your family at the beginning of the year, so that when situations with families arise, teachers and administrators will be aware that families are far more diverse these days and will respect and accommodate children from different households.
“It’s all about a conversation. Oftentimes they’re sort of intimidated by working with families they’ve never worked with before,” says Black. “But it’s just an open conversation. And another thing that we really believe in is volunteering at the school so that you’re kids don’t have to come out to other kids and other parents. The only way you can do that is by being present.”
More from The Next Family:
- Shattering the glass ceiling for boys
- Lesbian moms: What I would tell my younger self
- The hard days of parenting